Is this rocd?(trigger warning)

I was on a walk outside and I saw a guy also on a walk and thought he seemed cool/attractive. Then I got super anxious and started wondering if he would be a better match for me than my boyfriend who doesn’t go on walks or do outdoor activities frequently. Is this rocd or is this me deep down doubting if he’s the right guy for me/not wanting to be with him? I really can’t tell and it’s causing me a lot of distress bc I do love him, but I know you can love someone and they can still be the wrong person for you or not the right fit long term and I’m trying to distinguish if I’m in denial of that or if it’s just my anxiety attacking my relationship with him. Any advice?

Jantea

Date posted: 23w

i deal with the exact same thoughts, right on the money. i deal with the exact same uncertainty of if it's my genuine belief or the anxiety. and im here to tell u, its the anxiety. it could be r-ocd , but thats a talk for your doctor. i'm not diagnosed myself but highly suspecting. my best advice is this: if you genuinely did not care for your partner, then neither would your anxiety. i heard something on a podcast about a woman with ocd intrusive thoughts about her pet, so she coped by picking up her pet every morning and saying aloud "i must really love you if my ocd is picking on you." and it makes a lot of sense. we fear that we'll make a mistake because mistakes risk loss, the loss being something we don't want. so when natural tendencies arise, like thinking a person is attractive (FYI, totally normal.**), it presents a trigger as it challenges our morals and we "must" ruminate and debate that thought as to reassure we won't make a mistake and lose what we love. **humans don't exactly have life or death dedication and loyalty towards a single body wired into their biology, so a little thought of "hey that persons cute" is just fine. it's you acting on that thought that makes it cheating. it's disrespecting the boundaries set specifically by YOU and YOUR partner that makes it wrong. and your relationship is not societies relationship. the two of you set the standards and expectations for your relationship because it's to make you and him happy and nobody else. hope that makes sense.

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 23w

Hey there! It sounds like you could potentially be dealing with some obsessive thoughts regarding your relationship. As an OCD Therapist, we hear about these type of thoughts very often. I have a video here I think might be helpful for you: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kGTDv6mzrkU It provides some information and talks about treatment options that could be very helpful for you!

Firefly girl

Date posted: 22w

Is rocd about the specific person?

I definitely struggle with Rocd/relationship anxiety to the point where I can’t function normally or participate in regular activities bc I’m fixating trying to figure out if this guy is right for me/if I truly want to be with him/ or not. But is this because he’s important to me specifically like is it really about my love for him? Or is it just because I value my relationships

Mariabae

Date posted: 18w

please read

Lately, I’ve been feeling extremely confused and guilty. My boyfriend has been really busy with exams, and we haven’t talked much this past week. I don’t really feel like I miss him, and that scares me. It makes me think maybe I don’t love him anymore, maybe I’ve changed, and maybe this relationship doesn’t feel right for me anymore. A few days ago, a friend invited me to go to a club with her and another girl. I know that if I went without my boyfriend, he would feel bad — not because he’s controlling, but because in our relationship, we’ve always had mutual boundaries and respect. I decided not to go, but ever since, I’ve been spiraling. My thoughts keep going: “What if I didn’t go just because of him?”, “What if I actually wanted to go, but I stopped myself because I don’t really love him?”, “What if I’m holding myself back and this relationship is limiting me?” All of this makes me think I’m bored, that I don’t like him anymore, or that I’m staying out of habit. It’s hard to tell what I really want or whether these thoughts are part of ROCD or some deeper truth. I keep wondering if I’m just attached to him because he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for so long. Sometimes I even think I wouldn’t care if we broke up, and that I don’t feel anything for him anymore — and that absolutely destroys me, because he’s such a good person who truly loves me. He doesn’t deserve to be treated with so much doubt and coldness. I feel miserable. I don’t know what’s real and what’s just obsession. It hurts that I can’t feel any clarity or peace. I just want to know if this is ROCD or if I’m in denial and refusing to accept the truth

faye1010

Date posted: 17w

I need an opinion

So the last couple of weeks I was in a super bad ROCD spiral, I was constantly looking things up and doing all the normal compulsions. Now I'm doing better, but I'm starting to wonder if that even was ROCD because I'm just thinking that maybe we're just not a great fit, but I want to be with him forever so bad. Does anyone else experience this?

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