- Date posted
- 13d ago
How can i know if it is fake memory?
Fake memory ocd
Fake memory ocd
Hi there! This is a great question, one that OCD loves to latch onto. If there's a question that we can't find a 100% satisfying and certain answer to, and we really, really want to feel certain, OCD will find a way to taunt us with uncertainty. ERP is incredibly helpful in these cases, as it helps people struggling with OCD build the skills to challenge OCD and beat it at its own game by leaning *into* uncertainty, rather than away from it. Here's a video that touches on this topic, if you want to check it out! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EEriK-0VGk&list=PLJwbxpxualYpcX3SPEgNVbTEOI7gXeA5x
Thank you mme❤️
Well, what most therapists would tell you is “you don’t know, so accept the risk. Maybe so/ maybe not.” But for me, I’ll usually be triggered by a “what if?” thought several days or more after the possible “fake” event. For example, I could go out on Saturday night with friends and have a great time. Then be fine and at peace all day Sunday. And then for no reason on Monday I’ll have a thought “what if (enter some catastrophe) happened Saturday night and I don’t remember or I blocked it out or I was drunk?” And it starts a spiral. Or sometimes a few days later something will trigger me to start thinking I must have done or said something and everyone knows but me because I magically blocked it from my mind. And then, having an active imagination, I can envision whatever awful thing might have happened and start doubting if it did or didn’t. At least that’s my experience. Basically, the thoughts don’t make sense because typically if something “bad” happened one would know right away or at least fairly quickly. Not sure this helps or not. God bless !
Can i talk to you? Im in very bad position
I've woken up from nights of dri king like omfg did I do that or what did I do??
@Dhali Can we talk?
@Looping 100% relate. I get confused because I can envision the fear, and it confuses me because I treat the image as evidence that the fear might be true
@Anonymous Im really lost and tired
Fake memory OCD can be challenging because you are questioning reality. That is a rather hard thing to cope with. With my Members, I have found such great success with leaning into the general uncertainty around memories. What most people don't know is the system that creates memories are very flawed and highly influenced by others. This is why the justice system does not prefer eye witness testimony. Leaning into I can never have certainty on my memories and will deal with the consequences if and when they happen (i.e., the feared outcome of the memory) is honestly the best approach for it. I hope this is helpful!
Thank you mme i appreciatte it❤️
@Morgan Byler The system that creates memories can be influenced by our own imagination and visualizations I assume?
@Anonymous Whats your point?
@Anonymous My point is that she states our memories are flawed and can be influenced by others, but I wanted to know if our memories can be impacted my our own anxieties and imaginations as well
@Anonymous You think mine is false?
Nope, I recently ditched all social media
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Im new in this app how can i dm you?
I don’t know! I’ve never used it. Maybe there isn’t a dm feature.
Can we go instagram?
I’m happy to chat like this as well. For some reason I thought there was a separate but maybe not.
Instagram?
I don’t have insta anymore, sorry
Facebook?
Because it triggered OCD and depression
Whats the solution then
If there’s not a dm feature on this app then we’ll have to communicate in this thread. Everyone on this app can relate to what you are going through
Let me ask you i remember that i did something but i dont remember it when or how or what really happened before or after like nothing att all but im so convinced that i did it
@Anonymous What is your “evidence” that you did it? Pretend you are in a court of law and have to present this “evidence”
@Looping Nothing only that i really did it and i felt it and it stuck in my mind
@Anonymous Are you seeing a therapist, either through this site or elsewhere? You need to remember that OCD usually latches onto things that are most important to us, or convinces us of things that are very far from the truth. It’s called “the doubting disease” for a reason. Have you done any ERP?
@Looping No i didnt
@Anonymous I know you are looking for relief but it’s not easy and usually takes time. You might need to set up an ERP scenario for yourself and work on it. Or practice accepting the possibility and move on. There are many great tools and videos on this site to help you handle these times. And sometimes you just have to sit with not knowing, because there isn’t anything else you can do. I wish i could be more helpful, but know that you are NOT alone and many struggle with these thoughts and worries!
@Looping Thank you buddy❤️
It looks like the dm feature is only between users and their own therapist
Yeah
I’ve been diagnosed with ocd but sometimes I think I’m faking or I don’t actually, but idk if that’s the ocd tricking me or if it’s true
I have constantly been feeling like if I hit one arm, I have to hit the other and if I set something down and it just didn’t look right or feel right I had to do it again or I had to move it to a different spot in my room I’ve had never been a clean freak, which is mainly what I get told is OCD And I don’t know if I should even have this app. I don’t know if I actually have it. I’m constantly worried that I did something in my past that harmed others and that’s why people don’t like me or I’m constantly worried People are constantly watching me and I don’t know if that’s OCD or if I have it so please tell me I will delete this app and never think of it again if I don’t I just really wanna know
I've gotten diagnosed with OCD and I'm in therapy. But I'm worried that I don't have OCD/that I got misdiagnosed. And recently I'm worried that I've just gotten myself into a habit of thinking of dirty minded or just plain old terrible things after I see/hear certain things because I feel like I need to prove I have OCD or else I'm faking(sometimes this goes away). Or that I'm just mimicking symptoms of ocd to cope with real problems I may have and that im just really deep into denial. I don't know...I'm just so tired. I mean, what if I really am what I think I am and this is my brains only way of coping? I don't even really feel anything towards most of the thoughts anymore either I just know they go against my values and I don't want them. I don't know if that's because I'm so mentally exhausted, I just don't care, or that the thoughts are true and I'm comfortable with them.
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