ROCD

@Anonymous It’s awful

@56Heal78 Totally understandable. I’m feeling the same way right now

@BreannaDanae How long have you been feeling like this?

@56Heal78 I’ve been with my partner for almost 6 years and I started having these feelings almost 4 years ago and it still scares me and wants me to break up with her a lot bc of how uncertain I am but then what if I ruin everything

@Chronicoverthinker How do you go about it?

@56Heal78 Honestly, I’m not proud of how I’ve been handling it. I’ve been super sporadic about whether or not I truly want to be with him or if am just afraid to let go, and am constantly fixating on our differences and whether or not he’s truly a good match for me. It also doesn’t help that my friends and family are not very supportive of the relationship, because my overanalyzing has obviously been causing me a lot of distress, and they just see it as his fault—granted he hasn’t been perfect either in the past, but we have grown a lot together and I have been self sabotaging from day 1, so it’s extremely difficult to tell what I truly want. I saw that you actually commented on one of my older posts, and your advice was to lean into the anxiety and uncertainty rather than trying to push it away—so that is what I am trying to do, but it is very difficult as I have an obsession about wasting time and put a lot of pressure on myself to make the “right” decision

@Chronicoverthinker But my best advice as someone who doesn’t even know if she’s experiencing ocd or not, would be to give the relationship a chance without letting your anxiety and doubts guide you…only then can you truly know what you want and what’s best for you. Try getting to the root of your fears…ask “and then” questions about what will happen if they come true. If you can identify your fears it can help you make decisions guided by your values but I get how much easier said it is than done

@521mullax This is so good

@521mullax Is it possible to have moments where you feel at peace with the decision and then go back to second guessing? I have a really hard time distinguishing between my intuition and my anxiety

@Chronicoverthinker There is no anxiety in intuition it is a thing of it’s own

@521mullax So could I be mistaking the two..because I’ve broken up with my partner in the past and was like wow I feel so at peace for like one night but then the anxiety came back second guessing my decision and we started talking again

@Chronicoverthinker And I really wanna stop messing w his head my rocd is really getting in the way and affects his mental but I also don’t want to make a decision I regret

@Chronicoverthinker Look at it this way if it was true. Would you regret leaving them and knowing you could never get them back because it was too late or would you regret trying and the failed?

@521mullax Knowing that I could never get them back would be the regret but then I get in my head like you’re just attached and will get over them you’re just settling blah blah blah like it’s an endless cycle

@Chronicoverthinker no matter what happens I will get over it and be okay at the end I just know that rn I have so much anxiety not knowing if this person is right for me and it’s so draining to sit with

@Chronicoverthinker You’ll never know if someone is right for you.