Rocd?

@OneDayAtATimee I once spoke to a depression therapist (outside of NOCD) who claimed she was also trained in OCD, but she still questioned why I was doing exposure therapy?? 😂 She said my (very simple) exposures sounded like “torture” and didn’t understand the point of them. But exposures are the way to recover from Ocd lol. So I had to quit being her client

@OneDayAtATimee That’s the thing she is an ocd specialist and trained in erp. She told me real event ocd isn’t a real thing

@bmaria Oh that’s super duper strange, that’s a big red flag that she said that :O NOCD has several videos and articles about Real event OCD. Sorry you have to deal with this :(

@OneDayAtATimee Isn’t it true real event ocd is about fake thoughts thinking about things you didn’t do in an event. Not necessarily about a betrayal your boyfriend has done

@bmaria No, there’s not only one category of intrusive thoughts you’re allowed to have to qualify for real event Ocd. Real event Ocd is just a broad term and applies to any real events that have happened. For example, say a woman’s husband cheated on her (real event). Her OCD can give her intrusive thoughts and cause her to obsess over “does this mean I’m not a good partner, will he cheat again in the future, what exactly happened when he cheated on me, is he the right partner for me if he broke my boundaries, etc.” False memory Ocd is more about things you imagined that happened, but didn’t actually happen. But these are just broad categories and aren’t meant to be strict, as ppl can have sooooo many intrusive thoughts and scenarios that have happened in life- so it’s impossible to have a named theme that relates to everything. But it’s still OCD 🙏 If you have repetitive intrusive thoughts, urges, compulsions, and compulsions that go with them- you have OCD

@OneDayAtATimee It sounds like your psychologist is overcomplicating it and saying that to qualify for OCD- your thoughts must be totally false, which is incorrect info. 1. No one has magical powers to tell with certainty that every intrusive thought you have is false. We’re human 😄 2. Sometimes our intrusive thoughts are in fact true- your partner may not be right for you, you might get a disease, a loved one might die, etc. Bad things happen in life! The only thing that matters is your obsessions and compulsions- which qualifies you for OCD

@521mullax I wasn’t happy in the relationship because of these issues I have been spinning on for months. They were broken boundaries and a feeling of betrayal. But I do love him a lot he has so many qualities I want in someone besides these 2 things I just can’t drop and then it makes me question am I in love or am I settling and it causes me severe anxiety all day long even when I’m with him

@bmaria Is he respectful and respectful of your needs/wants and values? Because if he kissed someone before you two were talking and it wasn’t official then I get that is nothing to do with you but to obsess about it is yeah hard. But if he isn’t respecting you or your relationship then yes that would not be classed as OCD. But the fact you are obsessing and trying to find certainty is a symptom

@521mullax I felt we were exclusive he didn’t . He said I love you the night before he kissed someone else at a bachelor party . He asked me out officially a week later. but I didn’t ask any questions about the bachelor party until 6 months into our official relationship and now I feel betrayed . He said it was a meaningless dumb kiss that meant nothing and a stupid thing but he just thought I would be possibly doing the same since we were official and he had “official vs unofficial” mindset . He is very respectful and admitted this to me which shows he can be honest but idk. And the types of women I asked him if thought they were attractive freak me out bc I think it’s disgusting but he does not so I dwell on that also

@bmaria So really it is down to a choice and communication and being honest.

@521mullax If I am treated for rocd with erp but I don’t have rocd would that be forcing myself to stay in this relationship ?

@bmaria I wouldn’t say you are forcing yourself. You are choosing if anything are you not?

@bmaria You have the choice to leave a relationship anytime you want.