False attraction

False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true

cman

Date posted: 21w

Trigger warning - it might be a romantic interest! That’s okay. You have to accept that to heal. This relationship you are currently in is important, and it’s very important to you but it’s not your end all be all. I know the thought of the relationship ending or being wrong is terrifying, but it would be okay. It would be okay. You will be okay regardless of the relationship.

Anonymous

Date posted: 18w

@cman I don’t think its a romantic interest something similar like that happened to me before but i never was romanticlly attracted to them i was scared that what if i was what if i liked them what if talking to them means i like them or have crush on them but then i would tell myself ew but i don’t want to be with this person my mind would try to make think of them in a romantic way but then i didn’t like it and didn’t feel anything or romanticlly attracted to them and the thought of them in a romantic way would give me the ick or disgusted like it didn’t seem like something i wanted it didn’t feel like me. And so why u gonna tell somebody it could be a romantic interest when that’s literally the point why they are worried worried that what if it is that would happen to me a lot so ur telling me i did like them without the romantic feelings?

Anonymous

Date posted: 18w

@cman And plus she probably only likes them as friend but is the itrusive thoughts telling her that but I would always get similar thoughts but obviously didn’t want to be with them or do anything in a romantic way idk but for me i just never really felt romantic for anyone else but my bf but i would always get scared that what if making guy friends or talking to them mean i like them or question my intentions but i knew i didn’t like them like that and if i got a random thought about them i never thought of them in a romantic way or a sexual way only intrusively bc it was uncomfortable and i didn’t like it or want it it would scare me but i would get random thoughts in general about them but i didn’t understand why but it would scare me bc even if i had a normal thought about a person it would still scare me idk if if this make sense but it was mix of mostly intrusive thoughts and normal everyday thought but its weird bc i knew i didn’t like them like that but i would still get scared what if i did i just didn’t have no romantic feelings for them

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

intrusive feelings

hey, so i’ve had these insane thoughts about like, this dude. and i assumed it’s intrusive feelings, but it also has happened w the fact o think i like girls? but i don’t? like, i get the gronal response, and everything, and like, it sometimes feels like i actually like them, but it always makes me sick? same way w the false attraction guy, and it even started happening w my bsf of like 9 years? and it’ll tell me the most insane things like “maybe u are attracted” “maybe if u got w them the thoughts will stop” someone please help.

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Date posted: 16w

YOUR EXPERIENCE IN FALSE ATTRACTION

Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.

Sexual Orientation OCD

What is happ...

Date posted: 14w

Curious question about false attraction

Just curious, how does the false attraction feel to you? I believe people say they are different. I’m not reassuring, just interested in other peoples experiences. Mine feels like my chest is crushed with anxiety, when I notice a good looking male, it feels like I’ve just missed being hit in the car (that fear sensation). I feel sick after the thoughts. I also feel my face screw up which may be a compulsion which I’m trying to stop.

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