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It triggers me when people say “my partner is the most attractive person in the world” because I don’t know if I could say that myself. I seem to hyper fixate over physical appearance. I get the “ugly” thought about my partner sometimes and feel terrible guilt and the urge to confess. This freaks me out I love my partner so much. Any advice to help with the guilt/confessing? I’ve been told the thought is not the problem, it’s the fact that OCD is latched onto it! Therefore I guess it’s also the OCD that makes me feel like my partner deserves better?

curefan6

Date posted: 13d ago

don’t confess no matter how hard it feels! that’s how you help yourself over time. i’ve had to do the same thing and it really sucks but it’s worth it. think about it this way, will telling your partner about this make them feel better or will it only make YOU feel better? often times i found that i only confessed for myself. my boyfriend doesn’t need to hear about all of the intrusive thoughts i have and as he’s someone who doesn’t have ocd i think they’d just make him upset. so it feels unfair to confess just so i can make myself feel better. hope that makes sense. you got this!

Mk3

Date posted: 13d ago

@curefan6 Thank you so much!! It is so hard whenever I feel like he deserves better than someone who has mean thoughts, but they’re just thoughts and I need to move on!!

curefan6

Date posted: 13d ago

@Km3 i understand! if anything, these thoughts prove that you really really care about him. seems so backwards and strange but that’s just what ocd does unfortunately 😭

Mk3

Date posted: 13d ago

@curefan6 And the first phrase I posted about triggers me so badly

curefan6

Date posted: 13d ago

@Km3 i feel the same way quite often. and i feel evil for constantly analyzing my bf and wondering if i truly find him attractive. i know that i do, but my mind hates that i can’t absolutely prove it for sure

Mk3

Date posted: 13d ago

@curefan6 Yes. I feel like we think our bfs are attractive but attraction ebbs and flows. Like sometimes I think he looks ugly? So what! But it’s hard to accept this if that makes sense?

curefan6

Date posted: 13d ago

@Km3 yes i definitely get what you’re saying

Mk3

Date posted: 13d ago

@curefan6 I’m glad someone understands!! Haha thank you:)

vincenzokeez

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13d ago

OCD IS THE WORST. And sometimes you just gotta say opposite even if you feel you 100% know. Just the way it is and live with the discomfort

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 13d ago

Hi there, I can tell from your post that you seem to really care about your partner and want the best for them. Since the confession could hurt your partner and may not serve any purpose besides feeding your OCD, I'd really encourage you not to engage in the ritual confessing! We all have our attractive moments and less attractive moments, like right after we wake up. Have you learned much about response prevention, meaning strategies for not engaging in your compulsions? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riKw294RZMw&t=63s

King silly

Date posted: 23w ago

Is this ocd?

I’m not saying any of this to be rude or hateful in any way!! Basically, I like this guy and I really love him, but, everytime I look at this one photo of him, I keep noticing he looks unflattering and it makes me worry, because I’m scared what if he’s ugly? And why does that even matter? Why can’t I just love him in peace without having to check his photo to make sure he’s not ugly? Like that sounds really rude and disrespectful and it hurts even more to know that he’s self conscious and I would NEVER want to hurt him so I don’t tell him I check his photo to make sure he’s not ugly, I get anxious when I notice/feel that he is unattractive/unflattering, so I check till I feel certain that I don’t think he’s ugly, why do I even do this? Why does it matter? Why does my brain make it difficult to even look at a photo without worrying, can I be normal? I say “I think he’s cute/I love him” to his photo and my brain is like “nope cuz he’s unattractive” then I get worried and for what??? I ask myself why do I care and I genuinely don’t know

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Hailey25

Date posted: 21w ago

Someone pls help w ROCD

I’m really frustrated with myself. I got diagnosed with ROCD about 2 and a half weeks ago and now it’s taken over my life. I was just with my boyfriend who is absolutely amazing and I was obsessed with 2 and a half weeks ago and then a switch flipped and I started questioning everything and have gone numb. I noticed immediately something was wrong and booked an appt with my therapist who sent me to an OCD therapist who I meet with on Wednesday for the first time. I’m frustrated because when I’m with him I know what I should be feeling and can acknowledge how great he is and how good looking he is but I feel this block in my chest keeping me from feeling things. Anyone have any advice or has ever felt this way? I know I’m new to this and haven’t started therapy yet but my god it is so draining and the guilt I feel is insane. Let me know please🙏

anonymous_an...

Date posted: 8w ago

Advice ROCD

How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have

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