taking me really long to learn to drive…

So i’m finally taking lessons after years of avoiding it!! However, it’s taking me a LONG time to get comfortable and learn. Each lesson is expensive and my family is graciously helping me out, but I feel regret every lesson when I know more money is gone and I’m not improving at a rate I like. My OCD/anxiety is def part of the problem. I have a hard time making decisions confidently and quickly and I hesitate out of fear of being reckless and hurting someone. But so much of driving requires confidence and quick-thinking. I fear I may never make it to a point of getting a license. I’ve been getting lessons for weeks now, and I STILL turn too wide and end up in the other lane. How can I drive in huge traffic with this!? I’m going to hit a car just by turning at an intersection!!! Any tips, guys? 🥲 It’s not my teacher’s fault by any means, he’s been patient but also encouraging. He does push me when need be. But I’m still BAD at what I do lol. Regardless of the practice.

flower343

Date posted: 20w

It took me a long time to pass my drivers test. Learning to drive is a lot. The only way to get better is through practice and little tips. Like where you look, your hands will move the steer wheel to follow that direction. So maybe it’s that you need to take a 90 degree left turn: come forward then make your turn and look to the curb on the right side of the road you’re turning into. Not sure if that makes sense in text. But take it slow, you’ll get there

Chibee

Date posted: 19w

@flower343 I will try this, thank you!! 🥹🙏🏼

learningtore...

Date posted: 20w

I get it! It took me ages to start learning how to drive and I was really hard on myself that I somehow didn’t know how to drive perfectly on the first lesson….sounds weird I know but I was so bothered even tho I hadn’t ever driven before. But once you keep going with lessons and learning the car etc you’ll be okay, it’s more daunting and overwhelming before you start driving, I would be so tense at the start of the lesson but then fine by the end of it, I had friends be my supervisor too and they helped the anxiety (when I had, had enough professional lessons and I just needed to do more hours etc) One hack I learnt from my instructor for depth perception and staying in the lane is to look at the middle of the wipers and use it as a guide to tell where the side of the car you’re NOT driving on is, like making sure that lines up with the side of the road, hard to explain but if the middle of the wipers is on the side of the road when you’re looking forward you should be good with staying in the lane….hope I explained that right and it still works no matter what side of the road you drive or car ahaha where I am we drive on the left but hope that helps? If I explained it right? Don’t take your eyes off the road though, maybe try that hack where you’re not moving quickly to see if it works. Anywho, good on you and you’ll feel so accomplished when you start to feel comfortable with driving! It can be liberating…scary at first but then you slowly realise that woah once I’m good at this I can go anywhere??? Anywhere??

Chibee

Date posted: 19w

@learningtorecover I’m not sure what you mean by the wipers truck but I’m going to bring it up w my instructor and test it out! this could def be helpful for turns. Thank you so much 🥹🥹 ♥️Glad to hear I’m not alone bc I def feel alone

learningtore...

Date posted: 19w

@Chibee Ah it’s hard to explain but I hope your instructor knows! That’s how I know it. You’re not alone at all

shirleyCstar

Date posted: 22w

Advice and Unbiased Opinions Please!!!

This isn’t OCD related so I’m sorry, but I don’t know another platform like this where I can talk to other people and actually get responses. OCD has been a huge fucking setback for me in life. I had to drop classes, wasn’t able to do things, and just felt so shitty all the time because of it. I feel like I blame OCD for everything I’m not. I constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Just today I saw someone I once knew and felt all of those feelings I used to have that made me miserable. Anyways, I tried taking my driver’s test a couple days ago but I wasn’t able to. The DMV only accepted cash. I felt upset but it was whatever. I’m almost 19, and I don’t have a driver’s license. So passing it would mean a lot to me. I compare myself to others my age; they have cars, hobbies, friends, go to college, etc… I don’t have any of that. Maybe comparing myself and all of that is my fault. My family says it’s my fault I’m sad because I just wallow in it. Hearing them say that makes me frustrated and hurt, but maybe they’re right. My mom texted a couple of my siblings in a group chat I wasn’t a part of, “He wants to wallow and be depressed. And woe is me, wah wah wah.” That made me really angry because my siblings were agreeing with her. Maybe they are right. Maybe I am selfish and think the world revolves around me. My sister tells me I need to advocate for myself more, I just don’t want to be a burden. I’ve only been a burden my whole life. My OCD created this whole issue in my family and I hate that. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want an answer. Am I really a loser? Do I really wallow in it? Am I not trying like my family says? I just want to talk to someone.

marks

Date posted: 21w

Anybody have hit and run ocd?

Haven’t drove by myself for a month now. Ive gone through this before.. any advice or tips that can help

Stacey353

Date posted: 16w

Does anyone else have driving OCD?

It’s like I drive a little ways on the main road and then something in my head says danger turn around and I do! I don’t k ow what’s dangerous though. I feel like I’ll never get past this and I’m so frustrated

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