No one understands

No one understands what I’m going through. My husband used to be my biggest supporter but not we’re separated and I try to explain to my parents why I’m upset when I have panic attacks but they don’t get it. For Example: This morning I told my mom I was having a panic attack. And she just kept asking “why? What’s wrong? U were so happy yesterday. When I said, I didn’t know I just was having this panic attack. She did not understand one bit. She just kept asking me why why why? And I’m like I don’t know. 😭 it makes me just wanna stay away from everyone and just isolate because people don’t understand. I know it’s not their fault. I’m actually glad they don’t understand because that means they’re not going through the pain I’m going through.

Ms.shelovesf...

Date posted: 20w

I can relate to so much

j vv

Date posted: 20w

It sounds like a really, really rough time. Sorry you are going through that. Just from your post, it is very obvious why you would be upset! Extremely frustrating when parents don’t understand. Also “why why why” is what my OCD often asks me in my head, over and over all day…so I’m sure that isn’t helping things either. Hopefully you are able visit with your therapist and work through these things with someone that *will* understand and is trained to help guide you through some of this. Hope you feel some support here in the meantime 🫂

Anxiousashley

Date posted: 20w

@j vv Thank you I do have a therapist but I’m not sure she really “gets it” either. I have to ask for homework

j vv

Date posted: 20w

Gotcha. I’ve had a lot of success with my therapist through NOCD and using the app. Not sure if you’ve gone that route, but it has been helpful to have someone specialized in ERP to help guide the process and help me challenge more sneaky ways that OCD tries to worm it’s way into my happiness. The end goal is that we develop tools and are self-sufficient, but that shouldn’t always mean we are always coming up with our own homework. Your situation is tough, I feel for you!

Anxiousashley

Date posted: 20w

@j vv Thank you 🙏🏼 yes I’ve tried therapy on here. Unfortunately, one of the therapists refused to work with me because I take 4 mg of Xanax a day and she had told me I needed to get off of that before I started therapy. I’ve been taking Xanax for 15 years prescribed I can’t just get off of it. I’m barely surviving as it is with my anxiety and OCD. She said I would have to get off of Xanax before I started ERP. I wanted to start ERP with Xanax because it’s still massively hard. It was awful. It was a really awful experience. I had a really good therapist before, but she doesn’t take my insurance anymore and unfortunately, I can’t afford her because of that, I don’t know what to do about my husband. We’ve been on and off for three years now I just want him to stay sober this time he’s an alcoholic and he was emotionally and mentally abusive when he used to be the one that I would lean on for guidance and support, he used to be the best person got a hold of him. He was the only one who understood really and he was so loving and so supportive and so I’m dealing with the death of that as well. I don’t know if I should leave him for good. I did leave for my own safety and I got my own place back in October. I’ve been living a part of her sense, I mostly isolate because I don’t know if my anxiety is gonna cause me to have a serious meltdown deal with physical pain every day from it. My head hurts. My chest hurts. My back hurts. It’s massively hard to breathe. My quality of life is horrible.😞

j vv

Date posted: 20w

I’m sorry things have taken such a rough turn. Sometimes when I feel I’m in a deep low or an anxiety spike, a thought that has helped me is “…and I’m still here, and I’m ok.” Some very scary things have happened in my life this year , but by taking the time to appreciate the fact that I occasionally was met with my worst fears and life continues on after has been a big source of comfort. OCD had made it seem like these situations would ruin me or be the end. They weren’t! “Rock bottom” eventually gave me *confidence*, in a very strange way. “I survived that? Awesome. I can probably handle the next thing too.”After working hard with my therapist and ERP, things continue getting better within myself even if my circumstances haven’t changed entirely. I’m relaxing, I’m enjoying life and moments…tackling each OCD tendril in my life has lifted so much weight from my shoulders. If you can, keep working toward therapy while caring for yourself. NOCD also offers the opportunity to switch your therapist if you aren’t liking the results. I don’t know you situation entirely, but that is an option! Today might be tough, but keep fighting. Things have a way of working out over time when you do 💜

flyana

Date posted: 25w

Feeling annoyed at my loved ones

I know OCD is a hard thing for those around us to cope with, but man… I feel so dismissed by the people in my life. I actively stopped seeking reassurance from them — but they can still tell I’m sad, so when they ask me why, I tell them, and this is what I get: My mom: “Oh my god, you’re on this AGAIN?! You’re driving yourself crazy! If you refuse to go on pills, I don’t know what to say at this point.” My boyfriend: “This is just getting repetitive. You’ve been so sad lately, and if you’re gonna be a bummer to be around, then I don’t know what to say.” Honestly, I don’t feel like my support system is very good, but maybe I really am just driving them crazy and need to own it? Because, believe me, I wish I could just stash it all away and be okay, but the whole issue is that I can’t. Plus, ERP literally tells me to do the opposite, and I’m still learning how to do ERP properly, so it’s gonna take time. I started ERP therapy. I bought self-help books and I’m reading them. I’m doing meditation daily. I’m moving my body and trying to keep doing what makes me happy. But, it seems like if I’m not 100% better immediately, no one has patience for me.

Anonymous

Date posted: 15w

I feel so humiliated

Yesterday I had a panic attack from OCD fears. I live alone, so in my panic I called my mum just to get some emotional support. It did not go well. I was asking for reassurnce to much and basically she got annoyed with me and started to chastise me. She said I was being ridiculous and accused me of just making up my symptoms to emotionally manipulate her. She even went as far as threatening to call the police on me to have me sectioned. I feel so humiliated. I know that I can be annoying during my panic attacks, and that my OCD puts a massive toll on my familiy. But I don't want to manipulate people. Now, I feel like an abuser. In these moments, seeing how much my weakness makes my family suffer makes me just want to not be here anymore.

Young adults with OCD

moon0270

Date posted: 15w

Isolated

I have this strong yearning to tell my mother all my thoughts and what I go through on a daily basis but then I get scared of what she'll think of me or that she'll worry even more and feel like it's her fault. I just want someone to understand what im going through but whenever I even begin to explain my thoughts to my therapist, she doesn't really get it and today it feels like no one ever will. like I try to make my therapist understand and bless her heart, she's super compassionate and understands how much pain it causes me but beyond that, it still feels like im not able to fully convey it. I'm sure this is something many people can relate to, but still. I feel alone.

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