My old ocd symptoms were around checking safety in the house, locks, doors and windows, the cooker etc I recovered from that for years, and I just realised all this time I’ve subconsciously been telling myself “well if I REALLY had ocd, those things would still bother me and get in the way of my life, so I MUST have been faking it” Ocd hasn’t bothered me much for years. Just the odd bit of checking but it’s manageable. Now, my obsessions are “what if I have an std and my partner thinks I cheated and leaves me” , because all this time I’ve been feeling like I faked ocd due to fucking RECOVERING from it, I struggle to see this as ocd cuz my mind tells me it’s not ocd and therefore my worries MUST BE REAL

I give up tbh

@?uwotm8? I’m too tired for it

@?uwotm8? No please.. Never give up on yourself. You deserve to live a happy life and you have one life to live. Its your life. OWN IT!.. Lets show OCD how strong we are!

@pingu111 Well it’s not gonna happen is it I’ve tried and it just gets worse

@?uwotm8? I've been where you are at.. Still have these days. But you need to find the will to carry on. Think of OCD as a bully that you want to show that youbare stronger than it thinks. You can also use a journal and think of it as a friend that will never tell on you and keep your secrets. I suggest you try and never give up

@pingu111 I’ve tried all that shit it doesn’t work my life is a joke my job sucks my partner keeps saying he’s gonna leave but never does and I don’t want it to end

@?uwotm8? Yeah i know how that feels. But if you don't do nothing about it either it's gonna stay like that or it is going to get worse. There is always a solution to every problem. If your job sucks find another one and leave from your job.. If your partner is threatening to leave talk with him and see the reason why. These are problems that everyone goes through. There are people going trough what your going and worse. But the ones that live a happy life don't sit back and whine when they have a problem, they do anything to fix it.

@pingu111 I’ve tried to get a new job I never hear back so what’s the point? I only took this job because my ex wanted me to have more money and then he left me. Now I live alone I can’t leave that job he wanted me to have, because he threw me out! Now my current partner isn’t making sense with his reasoning. He never actually follows it through but has said it a lot and we have only been together a year It’s clearly me I can’t fucking do anything right and if this is how I’m always gonna be treated I don’t really seen the point in anything

@?uwotm8? Look, what I learned is that one of the reasons why things don’t seem to work is because we don’t give them a chance or we expect perfection. In the case of OCD, it takes a lot of time and practice in order to get these methods to work. Nobody is going to do the work for you or save you, you have to save yourself. Each day you get a chance to start over and be better than the last. Something’s not working? What are ways you can fix it? It’s hard as hell and really scary, but it’s the only way out.

@?uwotm8? And about the relationship, I’m not in it so I don’t want to speak for either of you. But you need to communicate your concerns with him. Sit him down and tell him how you feel without an attitude or temper because that can really mess up your words. And about suspecting that he could have ROCD, I wouldn’t run with that if I were you. However, bring that up when you’re talking with him without accusing him of anything. The things that you can’t control or change, accept it. The things that you can control or change, take action. You have more authority over your life than you think. I believe in you, and I hope that you believe in yourself too.

There was a time for me were before i founf a job i sent over 30 CVs.. If your ex left you so what.. I know it's not easy but there are plenty fish in the sea and it's not like the single life is a disgrace.. Regarding your current partner there is always a reason why he is acting like this. You just need to have a serious talk with him. And it could also be that he is not the right one for you.. So what! As i said.. Plenty fish in the sea and single life is also enjoyable and its better than having a person treating you badly. I could spend all day talking to you. But you need to be the one to find the will to carry on. I have no more to say but i believe deep down you know you are stronger than this and wish to live a happy life. So chin up and find your way to own your life.

@pingu111 No I don’t want anyone else I want him. Part of me thinks he has ocd and is rocd too and that’s why he does it. I wrote a post yesterday about it

@?uwotm8? If you want him.. You need to talk to him not put uo a post. Go tell him.. 'Listen i really love you and i would like to know what is bothering you and why you keep threatening to leave. A relationship is not healthy when a person threatens to leave.' and i suggest that you let him know that if he says it to you again you will take him seriously and leave for good and spend like at least 3 days not talking to him. Because you don't want him to take you for granted.

@pingu111 It was to see what other people though and if it could be ocd or not

@?uwotm8? Asking if it is ocd or not is part of ocd.. When putting you thoughts on writing you can view your thoughts better. That is why a journal helps

@pingu111 No no I don’t mean if my behaviour is ocd, I mean if HIS behaviour could be ocd as he hasn’t been diagnosed but he acts a bit similar to how other people describe in terms of rocd when they analyse “if their relationship is for them or not”

@?uwotm8? Ohh i see. Well i have rocd and it took me a while to find out and tell my partner about it. Becuase it's very difficult to talk about it. It would have made been easier if my partner came up to me and asked me what i think of our relationship and what type of thoughts i have on our relationship together with 'you can tell my anything, i won't judge you in any way, i am always here to help you, and i won't get mad at you or upset with you, i will always understand you becuase i have faith in you and i know your not a bad person and above all that i love you and wish for you to be happy.' that would have helped.. A LOT

How do you want others to love you if you haven't learned to live yourself yet?.. I think you shouls start to respect and live yourself.. Thats the first love you need.. Then start finding love from other people.

@pingu111 To love yourself*

@pingu111 God I hate that phrase I really don’t think it’s fair at all

@?uwotm8? Basically people with low self esteem don’t deserve love

@?uwotm8? Not not at all.. They deserve as much love as people with high self esteem or normal self esteem. I think you don't understand the phrase from my point of view. I see the phrase as If you don't see how you love yourself you can't see how others love you.

@pingu111 It's kind of the same as when you want people to love you or think that people don't love you just because they are not doing the things you want. For example for you saying i love you everytime you hang up is your way of showing them that you love them. For your partner asking you if you ate today or how was your day is his way of showing you that he loves you and becuase he doesn't show you that he loves you in the same way that you do you will think that he doesn't or that you love him more . No body expresses him/herself in the same way.

@?uwotm8? I hated it too. It makes it seem as if I would never find love because I’m in a low place. But you will find love. What that phrase means is that because you constantly doubt yourself and criticize, you’ll never really get to fully enjoy the relationship.