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- 5y ago
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- 5y ago
Yeah I know giving advice while you aren’t okay seems a bit hypocritical but they are people who are living well and managing and have ocd they can control it and I’m shitty rn but on a good day not giving into compulsions help
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- 5y ago
The root of ocd is the same for everyone who suffers....no matter what your theme. It's a cycle. Obsession,complusion,releif. Then right back to obsession,compulsion,relief.
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- 5y ago
People who do give advice on here aren’t acting like it’s easy or going around and saying that. Everybody on here who suffers from OCD can say that it’s one of the worst fucking feelings in the world. I get that you think it’s hypocritical for others to give advice that they may or may not be following themselves. But the point of a support group is to learn from each other and get out of this rut together. Also, telling someone not to do compulsions is like telling a fish not to swim. However, it can be done with practice. The goal is not to eliminate compulsions or obsessions as a whole by just “stopping,” but learning how to live with the anxiety that drives us to do the compulsions.
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- 5y ago
It's frustrating, but it's the only option. It isn't about seeing the light, we all have our good and bad days. But refusing to do a compulsion is an important tool in our toolbox.
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- 5y ago
Aha yeah I get this too, it frustrates me when people act like it's easy... cos it's actually really really difficult. Once you've done it for a while though I guess you wonder why you didn't just do it earlier, and then you want to tell others that they should just do it too
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- 5y ago
Stoping compulsions helped me a lot and compulsions are the ones that got me here I remember on my first day of fully thinking about my Hocd I was on some crazy shit I’d say walk like a dude nigga if you don’t touch that then you gay etc etc trying hard to get attracted to every ass etc etc then after 2 days it manifested into me scanning guys to make sure I wasn’t attracted so yeah they really hurt if I knew better if I knew how to stop em I wouldn’t be here
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- 5y ago
That’s good to hear
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- 5y ago
We all suffer. Some days are better then others. I dont look at it as advice...but support. We support eachother. Tell each other what works and what doesnt...
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- 5y ago
God I so badly wanna flick the switch off again It came on so suddenly this time
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- 22w ago
I am so angry with ocd. I hate that ocd even exists. I wouldn’t necessarily say I wanted to be a mom when I was younger. I grew up without my mom around. But now my sisters are both moms and I see them and I feel like I’m missing out. But having pocd and hocd has definitely made me feel like it’s completely out of the question. I even made sure my fiancé knew that I didn’t want children/ feel like I can’t have them for fear of hurting them or passing on mental health issues. I was abused growing up and one of my old therapists told me that “people who are abused can become abusers”. That is something that I am not willing to risk. And even though I feel set on that choice, my brain still tells me that I’m missing out. So I’m constantly questioning if I truly feel like I don’t want them or if ocd is convincing me I don’t. Ugh. It’s just so frustrating.
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- 13w ago
I’ve noticed that I’m somewhat happier also ignoring my thoughts than I am instead of doing compulsions (I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired atp) but I’ve heard you’re technically supposed to do erp rather than pushing under the rug. But idk if I have a thought I just refuse to think about it again and im fine even if I want to do compulsions
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- 10w ago
So, I know my capacity to get fixated on things. And it's normally something that's relatively remote but, my latest issue is really getting to me and I was wondering if people have any advice. I'm avoiding getting too into specifics, as I don't want this to get reassurance-y but, in essence.. I came to the realisation recently that people who I'd been "friends" (feels like the wrong term now) when I was younger were not very nice people, and normalized a lot of very unpleasant behaviour towards other members of the group. They really normalized it, sold themselves as figures of authority, as older and more responsible and grown-up than others, and looking back, they acted horribly. And coming to this realisation, that I'd been manipulated into just accepting their behaviour has just... broken me. My OCD has latched onto it and I can't stop feeling irreversibly tainted by it. I've talked to others about it, and they've reassured me, told me it's not a big deal and that I hold myself to too high a standard, but none of that sticks. I feel better for a bit, then think 'Maybe when you told them you were skewing it to make yourself look better' or 'Did you leave out a crucial detail'. I keep ruminating over and over, trying to remember exactly how everything played out, trying to figure out if I fed into the behaviour, if I did something bad myself (because y'know, I feel like I was accepting of it at the time, so what does it say about my own values?). I know I need to stop doing all this if I want to improve, but then some part of me keeps saying 'So, you're just going to let yourself off the hook then?' Normally, I can rationalize my own fears to some degree, assure myself something won't happen, but the realness of the situation, and the fact I only came to understand the reality of it because the thought had been bothering me means it feels so much more all-encompassing. I know confessing in itself is a compulsion, but I keep feeling that if I'm not I'm somehow concealing what I 'really am' from others around me, and any positive interactions are me deceiving them in some way. I feel like I can't enjoy anything in life right now, and a good part of me feels I should not enjoy it ever again. If anybody has any advice on it, I'm all ears. Or even hearing if you relate to these feelings, I might appreciate the solidarity at least.
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