Anonymous
- Date posted
- 18w
Any tips for leaning in to uncertainty
I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
AnonymousAnonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 18w
Hi there, I understand your struggle, I’ve felt that same feeling too. It’s part of the OCD, it’s very clever, trying to make you think you’ll get in trouble. When I get that clever thought, I utilize ERP again: I just don’t know for sure if I’ll get in trouble. Maybe yes, maybe no. I hope this helps. You’re not alone here. Thanks for reaching out about this, helps me too ❤️
Anonymous Anonymous
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 18w
I know it’s really hard. The best thing to do is just acknowledge that you will not know what will happen until that moment comes, and just because it’s a Possibility, doesn’t mean it will automatically happen.
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- Date posted
- 18w
Watch nathan perterson on YouTube ocd-anxiety, nocd YouTube channel,iocdf YouTube channel there is one webinar where they talk about doing ERP and accepting uncertainty. The core concept is ocd is the doubting disorder and even those it demands 100% certainty about x it will never accept the answer you give it ,that's why you accept uncertainty, your fear may or may not happen, also watch ocd Bravely there is a video on accepting uncertainty
j vvj vv
- Date posted
- 18w
This was a great question, thanks for posting 🙏 For me, it can be very difficult to accept uncertainty even if I am aware that the feelings are disproportionate to reality. It may *feel* like my life will catastrophically fail, and I know it won’t…but it still *feels* like it will catastrophically fail regardless. That feeling alone can be paralyzing for me at times. Sometimes, if I struggle to accept uncertainty, I do my best to act as if I had. This means taking small, deliberate baby steps in my regular life. Similar to “I need to go outside. I’ll put on my socks. Ok. Socks done. I’ll put on one shoe. Ok. One more. I’ll open door. Ok. I’ll step outside. Done!” This has helped me remain functional on high symptom days despite freezing up. I do my best to accept the uncertainty as I take these steps, too — that way my actions aren’t avoidance, just practical. There are hard days, and sometimes I have to accept that I’ll only be doing the bare minimum, and that is ok. You’re not alone, let’s keep learning to lean into the uncertainty! 💜
AnonymousAnonymous
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 18w
@j vv I like the analogy of baby steps. So true 💟
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