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HOCD made you feel horn.y?
Like I feel geroinals ALL DAY and it’s stuck… I think I’m bi. But this still drives me nuts.
Like I feel geroinals ALL DAY and it’s stuck… I think I’m bi. But this still drives me nuts.
Lol it’s normal. Gotta treat it like you do intrusive thoughts and emotions. Your brain controls your bodily sensations.
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Hope I can help you confused writer, It sounds like you are having an unwanted sensation that is causing you distress. It can be confusing because it sounds like it is not aligning with your intended desires. There are times when the body has an automatic response that does not reflect the actual feelings or intentions. You are not alone as many people experience it. Here is an article about groinal response and how to deal with it. https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/info/ocd-stats-and-science/why-ocd-can-cause-a-groinal-response-and-what-you-can-do-about-it
@Kimberly Gruver Thank you very much!
Yeah it’d last FOREVER when I had this theme. Made me even more stressed bc I was a teenager at the time
I'm not even sure how you guys differentiate between groinals and real full body and brain arousal. For me I just feel attracted and aroused, while simultaneously burning with depression and anxiety.
@Imaan7 Yes Same
If it’s HOCD you aren’t bi or gay or whatever you feel. Groinals are normal.
@Cantal Not true and very triggering. Bi ppl have HOCD too. It makes you feel like u r attracted only to one gender and “cancel” the other one. Important to be gentle with this subject❤️
@confused writer Oh well absolutely I agree with that and didn’t mean it in any kind of rude way. What I mean is if you have anxiety over the idea it’s most likely OCD and not any sort of bisexuality based on what I understand.
@confused writer He didn't put it the right way but what he implies is that hocd is a subtype of sexual orientation ocd that happens to straight people. So-ocd is the umbrella name for what affects us all but when you want to break it down we now have homosexual soocd, heterosexual soocd and bisexual soocd
@Cantal Yes I understood I didn’t mean to say something bad 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 I appreciate your comment !!!! And I feel like I am bi because I had many “reasons” before but now it makes me doubt EVERYTHING as it likes to play 🤣
@Ms.shelovesfrogs Yes
@confused writer I should’ve worded it better, my mistake! But I have SO-OCD about not being straight even though I’ve always been attracted to women.
@Cantal I FEEL YOU. So for me I read so much online that even what I thought that was real feels unreal. I know sh!t by now 🤣
@confused writer Are you afraid that you’re into one gender or that you’re into the same gender as yours I’m confused
@confused writer Absolutely feel that. Researching is a killer
@geodrimilis That I’m a lesbian and not bi sexual
@Cantal YES. Since I read about comp het my life destroyed 🤣
@confused writer Is that competitive heterosexuality? As opposed to casual? Dang sign me up
@confused writer So you know you are bisexual
@geodrimilis I feel like denying being lesbian but yes
@confused writer Yeah that’s not like so-ocd in general than hocd cuz for me I’m only afraid I’m into men
@geodrimilis Yes same
@confused writer All seriousness I am curious what is comp het?
@Cantal I don’t recommend reading. Very triggering 🙏🏼
I’ve had hocd for around 11 months now. It’s gotten to the point where I’m just convinced that I am bi. I still like boys like I always have, but I feel like I like girls too. I have no anxiety either or active thoughts. It’s just kinda there like yep I’m bi and ok with it. Anyone else? Just curious.
This shit has to be one of the most confusing subtypes of ocd because no matter what you will never find clarity. When it started it wasn’t as bad and confusing because it was mostly anxiety. But when it started getting physical that’s when it got extremely confusing because I feel tension and fear when thinking of gay stuff but while testing I get arousal sensations so the big question is “if I am afraid of it how can my body respond as if I’m into it and if I’m into it how does my body respond with fear as if I’m not” and it’s endless. I wish I never started testing my arousal so I never started getting groinals to gay stuff in the first place. But there’s no going back now.
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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