@Rachel Owsley Sorry one more question. My mind has invented loopholes to praying. I can âpray to prayâ for things, which to me can feel like a prayer due to magical thinking. The issue is, itâs not the same as doing the actual thing. It is easier to do than the actual prayer. I can bypass stopping myself from doing it. It shouldnât have much power, but itâs been given power, because I imagine other people saying âwell if it feels real to you and you act on it, then youâre a bad person.â
Iâve done it for horrible things that I could pray for (maybe due to ocd), but normally wouldnât. One of these things was a potential prayer where I got so frustrated from ocd that I thought âscrew it, Iâm going to pray for people to die.â I do have misdirected anger from OCD, so this is a possibility, but Iâm not sure how much ocd would have actually factored in to this. When I was feeling really bad, and felt like people said all the âprayersâ I did were unacceptable, I got really frustrated and thought âIâll pray for world war 3 just because.â I thought really hard about it and almost did or maybe did (Iâm not really sure). But I was so frustrated, because I felt like people would say the stuff I did was wrong, even if it didnât feel wrong to me. Iâve been trying to deal with this, somewhat by allowing myself to pray for anything Iâd want and allowing my mind to go places it probably shouldnât.
When I was feeling very frustrated, I thought of the worst possible thing I could get frustrated and pray for, and I âprayed to prayâ for it. Basically, I prayed for it through magical thinking, imagining myself in that scenario, where all the frustration had built up, and saying âamenâ in my head. It makes no sense at all, but if it makes sense to me, I donât know if it makes me a bad person, and thatâs part of what drives it.
I read something about someone saying they had a worry about doing a curse on someone, which isnât real and I know that, and someone said âitâs impossible, especially if your intentions werenât to curse them.â I then thought, âgreat, itâs possible for me to be a bad person from cursing someone if I believe that curses are true due to OCD, even though I would have NEVER thought about curses before OCD.â I can then imagine myself believing in curses, and due to OCD, through magical thinking, I can âpre doâ a curse, by saying âamenâ while imagining a scenario where I actually believe in the curse. Because the scenario feels real to me through magical thinking, even though itâs impossible because I donât believe in curses like that, I can be a bad person according to OCD.
If I read something that makes me think that the magical thinking thing makes me a bad person, I am more likely to imagine myself mad at people and âpre-prayâ or âpray to prayâ for it. It has zero basis in anything logical but if it makes sense to me, than that is the issue. OCD can even designate something like âif you tap your foot you agree with the prayer.â All of the sudden, it can become something that feels real to me.
After itâs done, to me, it feels insignificant. But I feel like other people would disagree. It is possible for me to âpre-prayâ for things I am actually not even capable of praying for. Or I could imagine myself in a calm state, think of a future time where I would be calm and pray for something awful, and say âamen,â as if I were in that time. It makes absolutely zero logical sense, but I technically prayed for it through magical thinking. Iâve done this before for the worst things I can imagine. It is likely not even possible I could pray for them, but my ocd could say âwell what if you swapped places with evil people 1000 times,â or something dumb.