Frat bf asked for a break. ADHD/ ocd acting up :(

:( so I have multiple posts abt this. I hate being alone bc the thoughts get worse and I spiral. I can’t believe he did this I love him a ton. My previous posts have more details, but yea. This feels impossible to get over. Pls can someone talk to me and help me? I have a therapist and friends and family and they’re amazing. But I’m annoying with how much I talk about the same situation over and over again. I’m not supposed to be seeking reassurance and sitting with the thoughts and work with them using erp. I’m trying SO SO hard. I’m just shocked I hate the nighttime when it’s radio silent. :( I feel like a loser

garlicgorl13

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 33w

Seperations are hard, I'm really sorry you're experiencing that right now. But give yourself some grace, it's still fresh and you might need to get some feelings off your chest. That's a normal thing to need! Don't forget your therapists job is to listen to what is on your mind, and it doesn't matter if it seems repetitive or if you think it's annoying them. They will give you the tools to help yourself through this time!

Gmoki

Date posted: 33w

@garlicgorl13 Thank you SO much. I beat myself up so badly. ERP is making me deal with this as best I can, but sometimes I find myself not always practicing it. I’m trying my best though.

garlicgorl13

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 33w

@Gmoki Practice makes all the difference :) it definitely won't be easy everyday but what matters is you're trying!! Keep it up, you've got this 🤗

Gmoki

Date posted: 33w

@garlicgorl13 If only more people were as kind and understanding as you! Thank you so much❤️I appreciate it a ton. I’m trying. I turn 20 soon so I’m gonna try to make it my goal to really prioritize myself and ERP. So damn hard but I’m willing to put in the work

garlicgorl13

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 33w

@Gmoki You're so sweet! And you're in good company- there's so much empathy and understanding among folks in this community. It's always good to chat with people who understand and relate without judgment. We are all on your team, cheering you on from the sidelines! 🥳

Gmoki

Date posted: 33w

@garlicgorl13 Everyone here is SO much nicer than other ppl on the internet. When all my friends were asleep I turned to Reddit for advice. I told my story in the r/relationshipadvice subreddit and oh my LORD they hated me so damn bad. They were SO mean. I deleted that post asap. I told my mom and she said that was definitely my fault, I did go asking for that. I was very stupid to do that 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️I just was feeling vulnerable I guess. But anyway, im so grateful there are kind people. You understand it. Thank you for being kind❤️I am rooting for your successes too!!!

JediMJ

Date posted: 33w

You are so NOT a loser. (Or maybe you are. JUST KIDDING! Because we have already connected on here. And the whole maybe/maybe not idea about intrusive thoughts.) And here’s my personal policy on reassurance—I’m allowed to ask for reassurance, IF I’m willing to accept/believe the answer. No repeat asking. I will want to ask again, but instead I self-soothe. But when you’re suffering a breakup, maybe you need a little repetitive reassurance. Be gentle with yourself.

Gmoki

Date posted: 33w

@JediMJ Thank you so much❤️you’re amazing. So true, I’m trying to not go back to that repetition. It’s so damn hard when it’s all I’ve known to do for almost 20 years of my life when dealing with conflict. ERP is rewiring my brain and it’s wild. I’m trying to put the negative self talk to bed, whew this is difficult. Unimportant but my 20th birthday is the end of this month and I’m gonna try to make it my goal to really do better with ERP. It’s just a vunerable time right now. ADHD doesn’t help with the racing thoughts either. I’m excited for when things get better.

JediMJ

Date posted: 33w

@Gmoki I’d say having a birthday is important. 🎉 You’re leveling up! Setting goals is good too—just try to make them achievable and understand you’ll probably have days that don’t go well. That’s part of the journey. Give yourself space to be imperfect. (I am definitely also talking to myself here. 🙂)

Gmoki

Date posted: 33w

@JediMJ Aww, that’s so true. I’m trying.

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