My boyfriend choked me last night to the point my throat hurts . He pulled my hair , I did slap him early yesterday but it was because he hurt my feelings and he clearly didn’t care , I apologized soon after and after that he disrespected me and he took my phone and texted my ex’s and disrespected them
Based off what you’re saying, it sounds like abuse coming from your boyfriend. Even if it was a response to a slap you gave him early on, that is no reason to choke or hit you. He has a physical advantage over you and he can seriously hurt you. Please seek help and get away from him. He’s a weak, insecure man.
@My OCD Academia I always go back when he comes back , I really don’t want to this time but somehow I always go back
@Anonymous That is the sad reality for abusive relationships. I don’t judge you for it, I can only imagine how horrible it feels. It’s easier said than done, but you should talk to your family and or the police. Get a restraining order against this little boy. It makes me so furious when Men hurt women. I couldn’t imagine hurting my significant other with harsh words, let alone physical violence. The number you can call is 800-799-7233 Or alternatively, you can text “BEGIN” to 88788
@My OCD Academia Na bru, she hit him first. Theres no excuse for hitting anyone period, including what she did. If he is a weak, insecure man, then it must also follow that she is a weak, insecure woman.
@Anonymous It’s one thing to defend yourself from physical harm, it’s another to choke out your girl because they slapped you. I wouldn’t let a female just hit me around but I’m not going to suplex her on the pavement because she slapped me. Also, he didn’t defend himself from the slap, him choking her happened a day later. Be a man and respect the Woman your with. Slapping someone is never okay, but that doesn’t give you the right to choke someone, especially to the point they’re losing consciousness. As Men, we have a physical advantage over Women.
@My OCD Academia Did you hear anything about a supplex or a pavement on her end? Is there any reference to this at all? No, there isn’t. You dont know the whole story based on this message alone. Also, you say that you wouldn’t let a woman hit you around. So are you saying you would try and defend yourself? Damn man, you must be pretty insecure :)
@Anonymous Defending myself and choking someone out a day later after getting slapped is not the same thing and I’m sorry for any girl you’re with
I’m so sorry to hear that this happened. It sounds like this relationship is toxic and I think for your safety you need to break up and leave him. Here’s a resource that you might be interested in checking out: https://www.thehotline.org/ & here’s a phone number you can call if you need to talk to someone on the National Domestic Violence Hotline immediately: (800) 799-7233
Yes, this isn't the place to get the help you need for what's happening. This needs to be reported to proper authorities.
This is incredibly toxic! Nobody should have to live through this, seek help!
Our time in this life is precious, and he clearly doesn't deserve yours. You need to leave him :( That's a very terrifying and dangerous situation to be in. If you have family or friends that can help you move out of this situation, please seek their help or contact local authorities. Be careful and stay safe. And remember that you deserve so much more. There is someone out there who will treat you right, but it's definitely not him ❤️🩹
Fuck that guy!
I told my boyfriend last night about all the times that I thought I “cheated” (I have ROCD) on him and he said that I didn’t but he still feels uncomfortable about it and I can tell he’s not answering me and he’s being really dry and his responses. He said it was fine but now I don’t know what to do because I know it’s not fine. I didn’t cheat on him, but I felt like I did and I told him that and I think it made him really uneasy. I just don’t wanna lose him and I’m scared because I had a dream about it and he got really mad and broke up with me. I didn’t want to tell him what I was going through in the first place, but it was eating at me so badly with the guilt I had to confess. I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I cannot lose him.
Longer post, but please, I need some guidance. I thought that my thoughts relating to relationship OCD were taking over. But, my bf started treating me differently. I tried to have a conversation and communicate this worry. He then texted me that he had actually been feeling distant for a month and has been meaning to tell me. But “we’re fine now.” I spiraled. Later in the week, he went quiet after a disagreement. After he promised we were okay and he was okay, I found later he was texting a mutual friend (female) that I was crying again. She said that it was fucking insane and other hurtful things about me. He said he lost his trust with me because I looked through his phone and saw that message even though during the whole relationship we had a mutual understanding that we had nothing to hide from each other and he always assured me that I could look through his phone at anytime. It’s ok for boundaries to change in a relationship, but it wasn’t communicated and I was harshly reprimanded. During the texting chain with the mutual friend he also said that “she just has no idea.” When I addressed this, he then said that for the past month, he actually felt he didn’t want to be in a relationship, but still loved me. I’m ruined. I had the same thoughts in January and knew I loved him. I found out it was ROCD (through this app) and told him the day after the realization because it was eating at me. So him saying I wouldn’t understand and telling other seems unjustified. I would’ve been the most understanding. Any help would be appreciated greatly.
Hi I was on here a few days ago talking about how I have POCD because of CSA & how I couldn’t trust my bf. I ended up telling him about this while we were out in nature one day, a pretty secluded area but there were still children visible in the area. We changed by holding a towel up around each other. That was a bit too much for me but I needed to change. He had to urinate and he went behind a tree but I told him just to go in the water because if anyone catches any glimpse of him on accident, it’s illegal and just wrong especially because there were kids across the river. I ended up confronting him about my OCD fears, which was causing me to distrust him (I don’t even trust my own brothers). This man was my first everything, I loved him so much I wanted to trust him so badly. He ended up being offended after I shared my fears. He was offended that I would ever think of him as someone who would hurt kids (like my dad did to me 💔. and yes, he knew what happened to me as a child before alllll of this happened so I though he would understand). He was so offended he told me it was time to go home. He changed in f*cking public. IN PUBLIC AFTER I TOLD HIM THAT CHILDREN MIGHT SEE. We drove 1hr+ back home in silence. It didn’t even process in my mind fully, after this happened I was texting him how much I loved him and didn’t want to break up. But as I started to think about that moment I just feel sick in my stomach. I hate myself I hate my l-fe I genuinely don’t want to b3 h3r3. I’m probably gonna get rid of myself. I can’t do this anymore. I can’t even be in love in peace. I can’t nothing is normal in my life nobody is normal I can’t do this anymore
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