So this past week I’ve needed to do something’s with group for my school. I have been hanging around more people who are not my boyfriend and now I’m scared I’m losing feelings for him and I am attracted to someone else. Is this normal I have researched and researched and it says it is but what if these thoughts are true? What if there is someone better for me than my boyfriend? Help me please has anyone else gone through this?
Hey, quit worrying. Humans have feelings. You’re allowed to feel. You don’t need to be so hard on yourself about being perfect. Nobody is perfect. You deserve someone who you are inherently attracted to. If you feel yourself being torn between different people, then take it as a sign that you are growing. Learn what it is that you need. Don’t feel ashamed
@Aether50555 I just love my boyfriend that I’m wish now so much but it feels like I’m so distant from everyone
It is said in your bio That you are not diagnosed so if you dont mind me asking Tell me more about Feelings you experience during these thoughts And if you can try to be detailed as much as you can If this is ocd we have to prevent it from fake feelings amd thoughts that can ruin your relantioship
@Mrcino 1408 I’ve been so anxious. These thoughts make me have panic attacks most of the time because I know the guy I’m with now is who I want for the rest of my life. I’m scared I’m going to ruin everything but I also want us to just be perfect for each other that I over analyze most of the time and think that there could be someone better for both of us or maybe I’m not in love. It really scares me and freaks me out it’s gotten so bad recently and all I want to do is truly love the guy I’m with now without letting these thoughts get in the way. He loves me in the way I deserve too but I don’t know I wonder if I’m getting comfortable because we have been together for about a year now
@Kas01 Maybe i understood wrong, what s wrong with getting comfortable
@Mrcino 1408 Nothing I think I’m confusing the feeling with falling out of love but then I question more about my relationship that lines up with some of the thoughts of ROCD
@Kas01 So, The reason i asked you about this It was to make sure that you have ROCD , I lost 2 relantioships over this, i dont want this to happen AGAIN TO ANYBODY Big difference is your point of view and their s So dont let this thoughts STOPS you from doing activities with him or let then change you mood, because it will change relantionship flow and it can only get worse But if you think there is someone better than you Than you should work on your Relantioship Belief Core. And love core He has flaws okay But even if somebody comes with All perfect manners for you You wont leave hin because you love him exactly as he is I get you. I always thought that she is not raelly for me,.. This and that But be sure before any decision Dont let ocd tricks you with anything. Educate yourself more about UNDERSTANDING OF OCD it will help you and your relantioship
@Mrcino 1408 I just know I can get past this and work on our relationship. I want this relationship I haven’t been happy in a relationship like this ever and I’m glad I finally have the chance I just don’t want to ruin it. Thank you for the advice though I’m sorry you had to go through that.
Might not even be OCD if you don’t have other symptoms- sounds like just how life it… You could just have an avoidant attachment or anxious attachment which def could lead to how you’re feeling.
@Mysterywoman I have more symptoms this is a new one that came up recently
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