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Why why WHY do I feel the need to constantly overshare?! It’s making me feel guilty af! If my boyfriend tells me something in confidence but my ocd twists what’s said into some crazy big problem I feel the need to run to my mom for reassurance, it’s getting to the point where he doesn’t trust me not to talk about stuff and I don’t want him to feel like that obviously!! But it’s like I can’t stop! Does anyone else have that? How do you stop it?

Anonymous

Date posted: 23d ago

I can relate to this I'm a big over sharer also have a diagnosis of bpd but confessing is one of my compulsions of my ocd I still have no advice for myself nor you how to stop this sorry :( but just know your not in it alone 💚

Michie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23d ago

@Anonymous Thank you ❤️ I was a little worried some people would think I’m an awful person and my boyfriend is so patient with me but my god it’s hard! I guess we really just have to sit with the anxiety and try to resist the compulsion 😭 sending you all the love in your recovery my dear! We aren’t alone! ❤️

Gato0z

Date posted: 23d ago

This is just reassurance seeking, it’s easy to latch onto someone when you’re spiraling so you don’t feel alone. Don’t worry this is common for people with OCD

Michie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 22d ago

@Gato0z Thank you ❤️❤️

jc33

Date posted: 23d ago

I’ve had this definitely, confessing is like one of my biggest compulsions and something i would do with my ex partner even when it was stuff that was just irrelevant - not even bad - to our mutual friends because the rocd monster made me feel discomfort for having anything to keep to myself without reassurance it was normal from others. It’s ocd and hurts us and others but you can try and be better by sitting with the discomfort and be thankful he’s communicating and trying to work through it with you!!

jc33

Date posted: 23d ago

@jc33 You are not alone and you will get through this!!❤️❤️

Michie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 22d ago

@jc33 Thank you so much!!! He’s a very patient man and never gets mad at me, I am thankful everyday for him. He helps me constantly with my ocd. Thank you for sharing your compulsions aswell! I don’t feel so alone ❤️

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 23d ago

Girl, it is a confessing compulsion (which is basically a reassurance-seeking compulsion). I get it. Mine shows up in reverse. Like, if my mom tells me something private, I feel like I need to run and tell my boyfriend about it. I wish I had better advice, but delaying helps a bit. Distracting yourself from the urge to confess builds tolerance to the anxiety and makes it easier to delay over time. It had gotten to the point where if I make a typo, I feel like I ***had*** to tell my boyfriend I made a typo because my OCD tries to attach some weird meaning to it, like “what if subconsciously…” I also get stuck on things like, if I think something kind of mean but then reword it to sound nicer, I feel like I ***have*** to tell my boyfriend the original harsh version so he “knows who I really am.” Which is silly because literally everyone sugarcoats harsh thoughts out of respect. That is normal. I am telling you all this so you do not feel alone, but also so maybe you can recognize some of your own confessing compulsions too. I had no idea half of these were compulsions. Even saying stuff like “I think” or adding little disclaimers to make things sound noncommittal can be part of it. It is that fear of being dishonest or being seen as a liar that drives a lot of this in people with strong confessing compulsions.

Michie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 22d ago

@issphra 🫶🏻 Oh my god YES!!! ALL OF THIS!!! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences too! That’s literally me to a T!! I will work on resisting ❤️

njsechres@ic...

Date posted: 21d ago

@issphra 🫶🏻 Your statement of ‘so he knows who I really am’ is so familiar to me. I went through this, having to confess everything ‘bad’ I had ever done so my mom’s love would be based on the real me.

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 18w ago

I’m sick of confessing, advice please

I don’t know how to stop confessing. It’s driving me insane. I confess every little thing to my boyfriend. I confessed that I liked attention (this is so obviously human), that I liked it when people found me pretty (also very human??) I confessed about a million other things and I feel out of control. I felt so safe with him last night that it just started pouring out of me. I felt guilty and awful and I just needed release, I couldn’t breathe I felt like I was dying. I’m stuck in a confessing loop and I know I’m only making things worse. Has anyone experienced this and been able to overcome it? It feels absolutely horrible and impossible. I tried to ERP this and I genuinely feel like I am suffocating if I hold off. I feel so disappointed in myself, but I can’t seem to stop. I even had a dream where I confessed to him and woke up needed to confess that. I’m scared I’ll start sharing my worst intrusive thoughts I’ve had if I feel too safe around my bf. Help please :(

madalyndicie...

Date posted: 11w ago

hello everyone 🤍

i’ve been dealing with this “thing” since i was 15. (i’m 23 now) if i have a bad memory that i have done when i was really young or just an intrusive thought i feel like i need to tell my mom or boyfriend. it’s been on and off ever since but since January hit it’s been an everyday thing about the littlest things. mostly about my relationship. an example is i was talking to someone random at my job and we were talking about taxes and when im in deep thought or just thinking i do a thing where i bite my lip (not in the sexual way) and i had a thought when it happened “was that sexual?” and i felt like i did something wrong and i went for a while thinking that until i told my boyfriend about it. or like my ex’s face has popped up in my head in the most inappropriate times and i feel the need that i have to tell him. (my ex was not a good person) i feel like im a prisoner in my head everyday, trying to justify thoughts or remind myself that its just a thought. i didnt know that this was or could be a form of ocd. it runs in my family but i’ve just never considered it being this. i always called it anxiety or depression but i always felt like it is more than that.

anonymous737...

Date posted: 10w ago

Confessing things i don’t need to

I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?

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