Any Christians on here?

@User17annon Any struggle with rocd ?

@EmmaGrace27 I struggle with real event and false memory ocd also past mistakes that involve my spouse.

@User17annon 🙏🏻I struggle with feeling attracted sometimes and there are things I don’t like or thinking that I don’t like this about him I can find a better attractive guy that I should and that I’m settling for less even though God has given me everything literally I could want in a man

@Someone99 Any struggle with rocd ?

@EmmaGrace27 Yes. It's not uncommon for themes to overlap

@EmmaGrace27 The man you mentioned, is he a believer, do you share faith and worship style?

@Someone99 100%

@Someone99 I’ve never met a man that loved Jesus more than he does he’s so disciplined

@EmmaGrace27 Keep in mind that "attractiveness", looks and such are temporary, they may change tomorrow even. Lasting love and commitment are what you need to focus on. It doesn't take eyes to see those things.

@Someone99 I feel bad bc I don’t wanna leave him for that. 1 Samuel 16:7 says the lord looks at the heart and I feel bad for people saying if you don’t like his looks that much your settling etc blah blah. Like I can’t just go on to find a good looking man and him change, I can’t expect Josh not to change. I initially fell in love with who he is

@EmmaGrace27 I think you know the answer. Too often the best looking are the most shallow. Sounds like this man will love you and you alone.

@EmmaGrace27 And that's rare these days

@Someone99 Most definitely. So do you think it’s ok to say yes he’s not my type necessarily but everything I could ever want in a guy and given by God. He and I connect like no one else, and I choose to accept the things I don’t like as I can’t necessarily change them b I can encourage working out together

@EmmaGrace27 1 million percent yes!!! Your connection, his walk with the Lord, your desire to grow spiritually, the spiritual growth the two of you can and will share, what you'll see God do in the lives of your future children because of all this.. priceless, and will last a lifetime. I could talk for hours about all God has done for us and in our children's lives!

@Someone99 Aw that’s awesome! How do you handle it when you don’t feel love or attraction physically tho? I feel like I freak out lol

@EmmaGrace27 Well, honestly, there will be times in marriage, if you do marry, that you won't like each other much. But, love will redefine itself in to the true meaning of love. Love isn't about what we get, the butterflies, fireworks, feeling like we're in a cloud... Love is about what we give. Just look at God's example of the expression of love through Jesus. It's all about giving. And when two people in a relationship are both all about giving to each other ... That's a relationship that will last. No one's perfect and we all fail and fight with selfishness, so that's where forgiveness and grace comes in. And being honest and vulnerable with each other will increase the physical attraction. Even when we're old, gray and wrinkled. Lol

@Someone99 I think so too I think it’ll increase like it did before we started dating bc when we met I didn’t find him physically attractive at all now it’s like I pick at things I don’t like but I think it’s totally fine to accept them as IS. Like I accept yes I wish I had a more attractive guy and I wish he had certain features but I can accept that he has flaws I have flaws I can’t fix all of them and God doesn’t see that he sees us the same he sees the heart. Satan is kinda whispering in my ear to say did God really say that the heart matters most? Looking for a guy just bc he’s better looking is deceiving. Just because I wand that doesn’t mean I’ll be “happy” and the point is transmigration. I’d I kinda have to force myself to focus on the positive and almost force love into serving him, not myself

@EmmaGrace27 You're a wise young lady. And yes, looks are definitely deceiving. Nothing will be more attractive to you someday than his commitment and faithfulness to you. God first of course, but to you. My heart tells me he'll never stray, you'll be his all. 🙂

@Someone99 I want him to be my all and that is going to take me to not look for things to dislike or find flaws in to force myself to focus on what matters

@EmmaGrace27 As with anyone. Even the hottest guys get pimples and have b.o. 🤭

@EmmaGrace27 Plus you'll have amazing friendships together with other couples at church... So many blessings ahead! 🙏🏼

@Someone99 Do you think it’s a reason to break up that I may not like how he physically looks sometimes or his tummy? Like attraction can grow with emotional connection I think

@EmmaGrace27 How would you feel if he broke up with you because you put on a few pounds? Attraction can certainly grow with emotional connection, and spiritual connection.

@Someone99 I would feel AWFUL it’s not a good reason

@EmmaGrace27 Yeah.... And it's something we all struggle with through a lifetime. There's way better looking people everywhere, but we all age and gain weight, etc.... Focus on what is real, eternal, sooner rather than later. 🙂

@EmmaGrace27 Btw, I'm 55 years old, been married to my wife for 32 years, we have 2 sons, 26 & 22 years old. Been a born again believer since 1997. 🙂

@EmmaGrace27 Not sure if I told you that yet. Lol.

@Someone99 You are totally right. I need to change my perspective I’m just tryna learn to accept that sometimes I don’t feel the same way like emotionally or love wise. And to accept his imperfections and idek how lol especially with kid

@EmmaGrace27 ocd*

@EmmaGrace27 Understandable. You're a wise young lady. Making a life long decision, such as a possible husband/wife can be frightening. There will always be unknowns, that's part of the fun of life, and part of what makes us amazed at how God provides and directs. I could talk for hours about that!!. I'm thrilled for you in this excitement, blessed by this conversation, and her anytime. It's awesome that you're discussing this openly. And yes, OCD can make things complicated!!! 🙂

@EmmaGrace27 here anytime...lol. you don't have a kid and I'm not a girl. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@56Heal78 Do you ever struggle with attraction?

@56Heal78 How did you get past it? How can I accept his flaws or things I don’t like without feeling like I’m “settling” scriptural I’m not settling

@56Heal78 My Facebook is my first middle and last name Percifull with my profile pic

@EmmaGrace27 Shouldn’t be hard to find me

@EmmaGrace27 I’m trying to find you

@EmmaGrace27 I*

@EmmaGrace27 Be creative, they flag things like #'s. Lol

@Someone99 Ohh I see

@EmmaGrace27 Or, I woke up at 6:10 am, have to leave for work at 3:50pm, my parents are 47 and 59 years old. 🤭

@Someone99 Oh this is cleaver