Rocd or gut

@TexasOCD41 But what is it possible that I have a gut feeling but my ocd is making me think it’s the wrong choice like I genuinely am so confused and it’s terrible bc I just want to make a decision and stick to it

@TexasOCD41 Exactly this! If it’s your OCD or anxiety it comes from a place of fear, a place of what if, a place of doubting. If it was actually a gut feeling there would be no doubt, because it comes from a place of knowing. If it’s a gut feeling it’s something that you’re not sure why or how you know, but you just know it. This isn’t your intuition talking saying something is wrong, it’s your OCD.

@#Lexiriri But how do I know if I’m staying out of fear and just afraid to let go?

@Chronicoverthinker Because the what if, the how do I know that you just asked me. Like I said a gut feeling is just a sense of knowing, you know it 100%. If it was your intuition or your gut there would be no doubt. You are coming from a place of doubt, you have said you don’t want this, and you are questioning it to a large degree. Even if you were in a situation where you were done but afraid to let go, you would still feel like your done like you don’t want this anymore but maybe your scared to actually follow through on it. And you’ve clearly stated that you still want to be in a relationship with your partner. This is anxiety, this is OCD. Your OCD found something you care about and now it’s picking on it.

@#Lexiriri Idk why it’s so hard for me to believe that I want it and that I’m not just staying out of fear. Bc I consistently am doubting it excessively that it keeps me from enjoying it which makes me think I am bored in the relationship and am just scared of the uncertainty of leaving

@Chronicoverthinker Because you have OCD it’s literally nicknamed the doubting disease dude, that’s what it does.

@Chronicoverthinker - Then its not a gut feeling. I think you meant to type " but what if" and we all know " what if" is the OCD. Here is the thing. If you make a decision based off what your OCD is demanding, then once you make it, its not actually your decision, its a compulsion to satisfy the OCD. then the OCD will flip to " what if i made a mistake breaking up with him, what if it WAS OCD and i just made the biggest mistake?" When OCD is demanding a decision, you deny it that. you SIT in your current situation. Iv had ROCD. i thought breaking up was the right option, i even tried it.... fast forward. I'm not married to the man OCD ALMOST stole from me. Make the decision to STAY in the relationship, you already said that's what you want. Anything else outside of that is OCD.

@Chronicoverthinker - Becuase of the anxiety. in a normal situation, IF you actually wanted to break up.. you would have a little bit of fear, but it would not be the perdominatnet emotion. IT would be secondary to the confidence that leaving is the right option for you. You are using emotional reasoning which is a cognitive distortion ( fancy words for a flawed way of thinking) you are leaning on your emotions to indicate what decision you should make. that is NEVER the right decision. If everyone lived by how they felt.. lord, i personally would never get up and go to work in the morning, id never clean my house, id never pay my bills, because i don't FEEL like doing any of that, but i KNOW i have to. Feelings are NOT FACTS. OCD give false feelings that feel 100% real. if they were easily decernible from logical feelings, OCD wouldn't even exist, or it wouldn't be classified as one of the top 10 most distressing disease by the World Health Orginization.

@LikeAnOnion One minute I feel like my gut is telling me to stay and the next I feel like it’s telling me to leave. It’s exhausting