just been to therapy and i was explaining my contamination ocd and says i don’t diagnose ocd but this doesn’t seem severe enough? so now im spiralling am i just lying to myself and im just a freak. does she mean my other ocds aren’t real either? i’m just honestly so upset. need advice please im just spiralling so much i take medication for ocd and basically have every symptom and subtype of ocd:(
Firstly I want to apologise because no therapist who doesn’t understand properly has any right to pass judgement, you would be best to see an ocd specialist because everything you’ve mentioned in your post is exactly how ocd works and you can be treated and deserve to be too.
@Anonymous;):(:|:) honestly thank you so much i thought i was about to burst out crying and shouting do you even understand me?????? paying for someone to make me worse
@miagrace. Very sorry that you’ve been going through this! The problem is that therapists who aren’t trained in OCD often don’t know how harmful it can be for them to try to treat people with OCD. That was unfair and unprofessional for them to put you through that and again I’m sorry you has to deal with their sheer ignorance.
@Anonymous honestly thank you for your kind words of support i appreciate it. i knew there was a reason i got better when i had 3 weeks off from going to her. she wants me to go back for an ending session but i really don’t want too
@miagrace. From everything you’ve described it is totally understandable that you would not want to go back to see her again, and it’s very unfair that you are being put in this position. People dealing with OCD deserve to be helped by people with the specialized knowledge and understanding required to treat it effectively.
So sorry to hear :( Even your case isn't "severe," Ocd is still ocd and your problems are valid and are impacting your life. Imagine saying a person's diabetes isn't "severe" enough to be treated. If something affects your health, it should be addressed. Also, if she isn't an Ocd specialist and can't diagnose you with Ocd- you shouldn't be looking to her for advice or guidance on it because she will give you misinformation
@OneDayAtATimee i know! i was so taken aback that in the same sentance she could say she doesn’t diagnose but then basically did? when i think about it like there’s been some stuff that hasn’t sat right with me before like is she trynna tell me ocd isn’t even a thing like idk maybe that’s just my ocd. i really appreciate your words and i appreciate you both for letting me know that normal therapists don’t help with OCD
@miagrace. Yeah totally understood! Therapy is often a trial and error process. Talk therapy isn’t good for OCD but ERP therapy is and you have to find an ERP specialist for OCD. But there are some ERP therapists who don’t know what they’re talking about because some aren’t trained enough and humans are flawed- so be aware of that. You have to look for red flags in professionals you see and you can’t blindly trust all of them sadly (although in an ideal world, we SHOULD be able to). I’ve gone through bad therapists but I’ve also met amazing therapists that have changed my life for the better 🙏 You can find the right therapist for you too. Just keep trying
I had my second session with a therapist and they told me they don’t think I have OCD. They think that I have just intrusive thoughts. They also said they don’t do diagnosis. I also noticed they did not ask me questions about my different themes.This has made me so confused. Even though I had a terrible fear that a therapist will tell that I don’t have it, (which is the main reason why I had not gone to one) I did suspect I had it because I identify with many of the symptoms. On the website it says that they treat it but I don’t think they are like a specialist. On the first session they described OCD mainly as needing to have things symmetrical and fear of contamination. I have a feeling that they don’t know much about it. I also didn’t mentioned all the themes I think I have because I’m scared to be misunderstood. I am not sure what to do. I can’t afford seeing an OCD therapist at NOCD. Can anyone give an insight, has something similar happened to you? Thank you!
I had like a really bad argument with my mom basically about her complaining about my “attitude” and “constant arrogance” like okay firstly 😭 yes i do have an attitude and am irritable but im not THAT bad 😭🙏 she was saying that im a “pest” and that “its not enjoyable to live with someone who makes other people miserable” like 😅🧍♀️ oh ☺️ and then i tell her that i know im struggling and that im going to therapy to try to get better and trying to possibly get a diagnosis and she says “your generation just wants something to deal with. You want something to be wrong with you. ‘Trying to get better’ isn’t good enough… would you be able to stand someone like yourself? You’re just choosing this antisocial, narcissistic behaviour and harass everyone… You need to pull yourself together. No matter how much effort we put into you, you will never be happy. You want some medicine? Some diagnosis? Because that will solve everything?” 😭😭😭 and the way she said “some medication”- she sounded so disgusted and appalled and now i feel ashamed… i mean im not officially diagnosed with ocd and it is never my intention to self diagnose- but im sorry its VERY obvious when you have ocd and know of ocd- its so distinct. Everything- the compulsions, reassurance, intrusive thoughts, themes, patterns, perfectionism- but she has me overthinking- what if i dont have ocd 😭 and ive just been lying to myself and everyone maybe its not ocd and im just sick in the head or trying to self sabotage- and especially when my supposed ocd is calm or not as loud i get so anxious “what if i dont have ocd…”
I’m feeling really scared I’ve been left in the lurch by my therapist today as she said she doesn’t feel comfortable doing anymore therapy with me unless I increase my mirtazipine (Remeron) as my OCD has spiked a lot since I started with her and I’m only just at the beginning, but I’m not sure increasing my meds is the right thing to do so much as what she’s doing is causing it …….. basically my OCD theme is it tells me I’ve done horrendous things like I’ve harmed people, it’s in the affirmative tense not the “what if?” anymore, I guess it’s a bit like it tries to give me false memories but isn’t quite the same,and I just feel so unarmed how to deal with it and I’m really scared I’m going to end up in a very very dark place again 😭
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