Willing to do anything.

What is a common family joke. OCD is hereditary on my father's side. However I also live with complex PTSD, and ADHD. I didn't learn till recently how severe my OCD is and the intensity gets amplified if the though goes to either of the other two. It's a loop I've identified recently... just little too late. I've lived with OCD for years not really addressing it till I see that's the very reason I cause damage to loved ones. I'm married, 33, a vet. My marriage is not in the best place now. I have a son who's 4 and already showing signs of OCD. Currently my marriage is at a point where we are working on ourselves. It's discovered that my wife's issues are reflections of my own. I understand fully now that I am the center of the issues but also the solution. I need help for me. What happens with my relationships depends on me showing that I am better and able to process thoughts and emotions better. Journaling helps alot. Trying to do hobbies or this that and 3rd but. I'm willing to try anything. Things are on a line. I'm open to any and all POV and ideas. I'm not out crying. I'm taking a big step for me. Something 25 years over due. Thank you for reading this. As I tell myself now. You'll best this and be better

Amara

Date posted: 30w

Thank you for opening up it’s clear how deeply you care about your family and your healing. That kind of self-awareness and honesty takes real strength. You’ve already made a powerful step by recognizing the loop between OCD, PTSD, and ADHD. That awareness is key to breaking it. It’s never too late to do this work, especially when you're this committed. Since journaling helps you, you might try structured journaling too like writing down triggers, what you felt, what you did, and how you responded. Over time, patterns become clearer, and that can guide you through behavior change. If you’re open to it, ERP is the gold standard therapy for OCD. It can be tough, but with the right therapist, it becomes a path to real freedom. Since you also live with PTSD, it helps to work with someone who understands both so the work is healing, not overwhelming. Practicing mindfulness (even just 5 minutes),Body scans to check in with your feelings,Box breathing to calm your nervous system You becoming more emotionally present and regulated is powerful, and it’s okay to ask for support too—it doesn’t all have to fall on you. As for your son your healing already helps him. Kids learn by watching, and you showing it’s okay to struggle and get help might end up being the most powerful lesson of all. You’ve already taken the first step now just keep going. You’re doing something really brave.

Anonymous

Date posted: 30w

The other comments aren't there anymore I didn't get a chance to save them.

Amara

Date posted: 30w

@Anonymous I sent you again.

Anonymous

Date posted: 30w

@Amara I have it now thank you again

Amara

Date posted: 30w

You're welcome . That’s great to hear—you’re doing a lot of the right things already, and the fact that you’re open to learning more says a lot. Structured journaling can really help organize the chaos. It’s also true that some meds work better for ADHD or PTSD than for OCD—so maybe ask your psychiatrist if an SSRI could be added for OCD support. You’ve already taken such important steps. Keep building on that momentum—your self-awareness is a big part of your strength. You’ve got this.

Amara

Date posted: 30w

What is ERP (in simple words): ERP stands for Exposure and Response Prevention. It’s a type of therapy that helps you face your fears step by step, without doing the compulsions or rituals OCD usually pushes you to do. Over time, it helps retrain your brain to not react with anxiety. You can also read some books and learn more about OCD—it really helps to understand what’s happening in your mind.

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