Sometimes I think I truly think negative thoughts about my bf but I feel it could be because of how obsessive I am over the thought. Does that make any sense ??? Like I genuinely think it often but only because of how obsessed I am over it
Don’t worry. This is totally NORMAL to have struggles like this. We think about things too much, and it gets confusing. Just don’t worry about whether it’s real or not. Just DECIDE what you want to DO (without the OCD), and then do that every day.
@Tea and Honey It feels 100% real/true. But it could only be happening because it’s obsessive if that makes sense?!
@Mk3 Yes!!
@Mk3 It’s only happening because it’s obsessive
@Tea and Honey Thank you. It’s so hard because some days i just think “he looks ugly” and it probably is coming up because of how obsessed I am over the thought and how much I hate the thought. So hard. And it feels like I really think this too. Ppl without ocd probably wouldn’t even care or notice but then there’s me… lol
@Mk3 Yep, it’s all fueled by OCD. Don’t try to figure it out. Don’t try to check if it’s real or not real. It doesn’t matter if it’s real or not. Just let the thoughts run freely, whether they are real or not. The point is, like I said, it doesn’t matter if the thoughts are real or not. You just need to make the concrete DECISIONS that you want to make—then follow that path. And don’t give the thoughts a “second thought” LOL 😂
@Mk3 But if we are always wondering if the thoughts are real or not, we are wasting too much energy. Just let them go whether they are real or not. When we have OCD, we are too confused to distinguish what thoughts are real. There is waaaay too much interference and funny connections going on in our brains to figure any of this out. So try secret is to stop trying 🛑😀
@Tea and Honey *So the secret is to stop trying, I meant to say
@Tea and Honey @Tea and Honey Yes you’re so right. It’s so hard because of the guilt but I know that’s also fueled by stupid ocd ! And it feels like what I genuinely think. But again ocd is way too confusing to be certain that it would still happen if it weren’t an obsession. If that makes any sense haha
@Mk3 Practice ignoring the guilt. Treat it like any other emotion that is fueled by OCD—and just ignore it. Remember, we are going to have to make decisions and move forward even though we feel UNCERTAINTY. There will always be uncertainty! We have to practice moving forward anyway. You can do this!!! Just keep ignoring the OCD and keep moving past uncertainty. It all takes practice, but it will get easier and easier 😀😀
@Tea and Honey They always say ocd can feel 100% real but that doesn’t mean it’s true…. What if it also feels 100% true? I guess it still wouldn’t matter if it is true because I don’t know if this thought would even occur if it weren’t so obsessive
@Mk3 Yes, it’s based on OCD. It’s only there because the OCD is there. Is not worth even considering it. Just don’t worry about it!
@Tea and Honey Thank you. It’s so hard usually I just have the thought for a moment but it was persistent throughout most of the day whenever I looked at him. Ugh
@Mk3 Just keep practicing your techniques to deal with OCD no matter how persistent the thoughts are. In other words, whenever the thoughts come up, keep practicing your OCD tools. Every time. You got this!!!! It will get better in time!! Everything is okay :):):)
Can ROCD make your thoughts and feelings feel 100% true or real???? Like I can have a thought or feeling and in that moment it feels real or should it not feel real until the ocd latches onto it?
With ocd can the thoughts themselves feel entirely true???? Or is it just the narrative around the thought that feels true/real?
Is it normal to analyze every thought & feeling you have? For example. If I had a feeling like I wanted to flirt or if I felt like I wasn’t sad when my partner left for the night ETC. I over analyze these and they lead me to thinking I’m a bad partner or it’s not the right relationship. This scares me so bad Is this basically ROCD in a nutshell? It feels so overwhelming when thinking about all the different feelings and thoughts I’ve had over time
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