- Date posted
- 11d ago
Not reassurance seeking in the moment
I'm struggling. Not going to seek the reassurance I feel I NEED.
I'm struggling. Not going to seek the reassurance I feel I NEED.
Also notice how you said " i FEEL i need" you didn't say " i NEED it" you said i FEEL. This is your OCD slipping up and showing you that its all just a feeling, its not facts. I FEEL like i need to go home and not be at work right now. buuttt guess what, that's no where near factual, i ACTUALLY NEED to be here lol. So hang in there, you don't ACTUALLY need reassurance, you just temporarily feel like you do, that feeling will decrease the longer you ignore it.
@TexasOCD41 It definitely is more than a need "feeling" right now, but I am trying to ignore it. Thank you friend!
Hang in there. short term pain, long term gain. it DOES get easier.
Great work!!! You're doing amazing taking these first steps :) As motivation- picture how you want your future to look like. Yes not compulsing feels like hell (for a while in the beginning) but the other commenter (TexasOcd) is right that compulsions only help you for a couple minutes in the moment, but not compulsing consistently will help you for a lifetime <3
@OneDayAtATimee Thank you friend! I want my future to be carefree and past this episode I'm still struggling with from the past. I want to love my daughter so much and be the best mom and have more children!
@Anony1314 Aw that’s beautiful!! 😇❤️ It’s difficult for sure but you are on the right track already by resisting the best you can to not compulse. If you slip up, that’s okay, just get right back on the horse again and again and again. Don’t stop trying. Use your daughter as motivation 🙏 Do this for her 🫶 When you succeed, this will be one of your biggest achievements that you will look back on and there won’t be a lot of other things that can phase you. Resisting compulsions while our brains are screaming terrifying things at us- makes us total badasses 👏 Doing ERP as well also requires a different kind of strength haha
@OneDayAtATimee Thanks friend! I'm trying my hardest to be strong today and not give into the compulsion of seeking reassurance. I just really need it right now. Ughhh
@Anony1314 I’m excited for you and I’m looking forward to seeing your success 🙏🥳 I’m going through a rough time resisting as well with my relapse but seeing you trying- definitely motivated me 👍 So thank you for sharing. We’re all in this together
@OneDayAtATimee I'm glad I've motivated someone! You inspire me friend! You've conquered OCD before and you will continue to! I have faith in you!
Amazing to see! Keep holding out! I’m loving to see you form your resolve over the last few days! You’re fighting back, and it makes me super happy to see! We’re all cheering you on!
@Julian2006 Thank you friend! I appreciate your support so much. I just need that reassurance today, but I know I shouldn't give into that compulsion either. Ugh!!
@Anony1314 Don’t give in, friend! I’m not offering a single shred of reassurance today, I’ll be here to support you, but I won’t reassure a thing! Try and get through today without relying on that comfort, I believe in yah!
@Julian2006 Thank you friend. Thank you!!! No reassurance. I got this. I think lol!
@Anony1314 I know you do! Just hold out for today! Small steps!
Hang in there, I have pure ocd and harm ocd so whenever I pass someone my ocd tells me to punch them or grab them or something and normally I look back at the person just to reassure myself that the person is ok and it happened to me the other night and I decided not to look back for reassurance and now my ocd is telling me something bad did happen and I can’t remember so I’m looking for any reassurance I can get but I know that’s bad in the long run
@Ih8ocd! It's so hard friend. It really is! You got this! I need reassurance on something too that actually happened, but I know I don't need to ask for that reassurance yet again. I have POCD
I’ve been ignoring the googling urges I get. They’re the strongest urges I feel. I’ve been distracting myself and going on about my life without considering them or ruminating. All for what? I had to go into a public bathroom to have a panic attack that had been building all day. I’m so sleep deprived, so tired. My sisters say I resemble sadness from Inside Out. I believe them. I feel so drained.
Specifically how can my fiance best support me without offering reassurance? I'm trying to encourage myself to grow and keep trying ERP, but I'm not sure how I can include my partner in a healthy way. I plan on talking to my therapist about it soon, but I wanted to hear thoughts from people who have been dealing with it themselves.
I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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