relationship ocd

my relationship ocd theme is back and it hasn’t for a while. i keep having intrusive thoughts about a friend even tho i have a boyfriend of 6 years. i like do not like this person they are good looking but im not like into them. i like feel guilty for no reason and i feel like i need to tell my boyfriend even tho like we’ve been through this before and it only gets better if i tell him but if i don’t i feel like im hiding something. AHH like i don’t even wanna see that person anymore

TexasOCD41

Date posted: 23h ago

Don't tell your bf. That is a compulsion. It gets better temporarily but as you can see, it eventually circles back around. You already said a few things indicating you understand this is OCD. " feel guilty for NO REASON" you are not experiencing attraction towards that person; you are experiencing OCD that is targeting this person for ROCD. Ignore it. tell yourself you know its OCD and you're not going to feed it this time. You bf DOES NOT WANT TO KNOW that you are having stupid irrelevant random thoughts about some nobody that means nothing to you. You are not hiding anything from him. Telling him will only ensure this theme returns int he future.

helpme1234

Date posted: 23h ago

@TexasOCD41 you’re right thank you. it’s just such a doubtful mental illness like for some reason it contradicts me every turn

TexasOCD41

Date posted: 23h ago

@helpme1234 - thats why its called " the doubting disease" lol. it contradicts you because you engage with it. Once you learn how to disengage with it, it CANT mess with you because you don't give it the attention to do so.

Anonymous

Date posted: 22h ago

Girl you got this I am sorry. I have the same thing. My bf & I actually just hit 4 years today🥹🥹🥹. I have improved with those confession compulsions to him. I am not medicated for OCD, but I gained confidence in myself surrounding this issue. I know now even if I find another person attractive it doesn’t change everything I know and love about my boyfriend. There used to actually be a tiny doubt in our relationship for me like what if someone else is better. That is when the OCD could latch better. Now that I have full confidence in my love for him despite seeing another hot guy or different guy, OCD latches less hard

helpme1234

Date posted: 22h ago

@Anonymous yes thank you so much girl that means a lot to me and it makes me feel not alone. i’ve been diagnosed w ocd since i was 8 and im now 20! it’s nothing new but it just makes me feel better knowing someone out there feels the same

Anonymous

Date posted: 22h ago

@helpme1234 Good💞 it is the absolute worst feeling alone or crazy with this disorder. It wasn’t until NOCD I understood there were all of these subtypes.

bluetree

Date posted: 18h ago

Same thing here…literally don’t like them and my OCD keeps trying to convince me I do, feeding horrible guilt. Don’t even have contact with this person after they pushed my boundaries without me realizing (making it so much worse), but they work with me so I’m on edge everyday and checking to see where they are…then feel guilty I’m not thinking of my boyfriend. Any advice would be much appreciated, been dealing with OCD for a while but I’ve never been in a relationship before so ROCD is a new one for me

helpme1234

Date posted: 18h ago

@bluetree this one is always hard for me because my compulsion is to tell my boyfriend because i feel guilty; he knows i have this cause i’ve done it in the past. honestly when i did therapy on here i wrote down over and over worst case scenario on like a google doc until it no longer bothered me or journal about how you feel

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w ago

Obsessing over coworker for months OCD

You know when you have weird thoughts about a coworker and because you have OCD these thoughts really stick and you panic and feel sick? Yeah that’s me and I’ve struggled with having intrusive thoughts about my coworker and now he just got in a relationship with my coworker and my intrusive thoughts are WORSE I thought they would be better? And initially they were because I was relieved that he couldn’t be weird with me now because he has a girlfriend. But this is the thought that i cannot get over- my OCD is like you’re jealous that he doesn’t like you and he’s not with you instead and i envy this girl he is with. Why the fuck am I having these thoughts while I’m in a healthy relationship and love my boyfriend to DEATH- like I know he is my forever. I couldn’t look at him today because I’ve been obsessing over this thought I’ve had in work and now I have to find a new job I hope no one will judge me for these thoughts or maybe someone has had this weird thought before? :(

Relationship OCD

anonymous737...

Date posted: 7w ago

i need some advice

So i had really bad pure ocd but recently it’s been sooo much better but i’m in a relationship and me and my bf dated before about 2 years ago then we broke up and now we are back together but i’m having an issue where i will try to go back years and find something i did wrong and i really do not want to find anything to feel wrong about or guilty specifically something i may have done wrong to my boyfriend but the thing is i’m a good girlfriend and i’m very loyal so i don’t want to ruin something for me because of my past if that makes sense like i can’t remember doing anything wrong but my brain keeps going are u sure let’s look at all your interactions with people and it’s so annoying i just wanna live my life in the present does anyone have any tips

MM311

Date posted: 5w ago

relationship ocd?

for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?

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