Feel slapped in the face…..

So having not even made headway yet with sessions with my latest therapist (not NOCD) she has just left me hanging saying I’ve got too anxious and I need to increase my Remeron before she continues with me and won’t even give me a date to start again……… I don’t really want to increase my meds as it was what she was saying to me in therapy that upset me, or is it really supposed to get worse before it gets better? My career that I worked so hard for is literally hanging by a thread and her doing this to me means I have to stay off work longer and I’m just really upset by her actions and the potential knock on effects of this 😢

moon0270

Date posted: 13w

it seems really weird to me that a therapist would say she doesn't want to continue working with you because you're too anxious. feels like a cop out. sorry that you're going through this. i can imagine how frustrating this must be.

hereintheUK

Date posted: 13w

@moon027097 She’s just said no more till I’ve increased my meds or she considers it to be unethical and that’s it she’s just pulled the plug with no thought as to the wider effects. She’s told me to “email her in a few weeks to make a decision where to go from there” meanwhile I’m just like hanging in the balance 😢 never expected this after all the shit I’ve already been through it’s like how many times does someone in our situation have to have a shitty experience repeatedly with therapists?

moon0270

Date posted: 13w

@hereintheUK that's so odd😭 i really don't understand her point. like doesn't she realise stopping therapy could also just make you more anxious. obviously meds are there to help, but it seems like she's not really listening to you☹️ maybe if you asked her to explain herself better? idk, im just not understanding the 'unethical' part. perhaps increasing meds could help, but yeah it seems really cruel just to drop you like this. i hope things work out. this is a terrible position to be in

hereintheUK

Date posted: 13w

@moon027097 How are you getting on?

moon0270

Date posted: 13w

@hereintheUK im just trying to get by. i see a psychotherapist and we do talk therapy. it helps to have someone to talk to especially because a lot of my thoughts scare me and i don't feel comfortable sharing with even my closest, most trusted friends or family. supposed to be seeing a psychiatrist in June, but they still have to get back with confirmation. it's really frustrating having to deal with these thoughts on a daily basis and feel like a criminal or horrible person when i am terrified of being those things 😭 hopefully seeing the psychiatrist sheds some light and maybe i'll see a specialist afterwards if finances allow. im hoping to get some meds that will help me manage all the anxiety that comes with everything.

hereintheUK

Date posted: 13w

@moon027097 Honestly give meds a go, I never wanted to start taking them but I’m 3 months into the lowest dose of Remeron now and it has helped. Not sure how I feel about now having to double the dose to continue therapy! Keep being brave every day

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13w

Are you with an OCD ERP specialist? If you aren’t- please do that rather than talk therapy because talk therapy often makes OCD worse. It’s because talk therapy involves doings a lot compulsions (rumination, reassurance-seeking) so good OCD therapists wouldn’t be doing talk therapy for OCD and talk therapists often give the wrong advice to OCD patients- advice they would give that apply to other anxiety disorders but that advice doesn’t apply to OCD. OCD is supposed to be treated veryyy differently Idk the full situation of course but that’s kinda weird and questionable that she wants you to be extra medicated in order to continue ERP because with exposures- we actually WANT the anxiety to be there so we can habituate to it and therefore, the anxiety can go down on its own. Some therapists even prefer if you weren’t on meds at all because it can interfere with the ERP therapy (since meds already make your anxiety so low so it’s harder for exposures to be as triggering as they should be). Medication CAN be helpful for those who are too scared to even start ERP and if their case is really severe. But having enough anxiety left to still do ERP is superrr important

hereintheUK

Date posted: 13w

@OneDayAtATimee Yes she is an OCD specialist and has OCD herself and the company do REBT with ERP therapy combined. I don’t know what to do I just feel totally suddenly abandoned 😢 I’ve had 3 NOCD therapists and they were all terrible and the last one caused me therapy harm to the point I had gone back to work and then couldn’t go again after what she did 😭 ERP on it’s own isn’t enough for me with my theme

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13w

@hereintheUK I’m so sorry to hear about your bad experiences :( There are good therapists out there for sure and there’s also bad ones. I’ve encountered both for sure. If your OCD is very high and you need medication, that’s okay too! I just hope you have happier experiences with therapy and I don’t agree that a therapist should just leave you hanging like that

Lena1998

Date posted: 21w

Harm OCD made worse by psychiatrist visit

I went to talk to a psychiatrist based off my Nocd therapists recommendation. I had a very hard week beforehand where I had anxiety so bad I couldn't leave my bed. It seems like once I get my period my anxiety and everything dissipated some so I talked to the psychiatrist. Anyways, I was immediately put off by her because she told me she didn't have any information on me included in the referral for one reason or another. So I had to basically "fill her in" on my life story. I have anxiety disorder, panic disorder, OCD and PTSD. I told her these things and how hard the last week had been. She started asking questions like I had bipolar disorder, which I don't have. She then wanted me to take buspar and Zoloft TOGETHER daily. I know for a fact you never start two medications daily at once. You don't know which one is causing symptoms if you do. So I immediately didn't like that. I asked her about Zoloft specifically daily because it is an SSRI what I should do if it gave me thoughts of harm for myself. She told me "just go to the hospital".... Now, I don't wanna say that was the worst possible thing she could have said to me, but it was. Because now my OCD is spiraling that just my general harm OCD thoughts are enough to mean I need to go to the hospital. It had been 2 days and I cannot stop obsessing that maybe I'm depressed or suicidal because of this. I know I don't want anything to happen to me. I love my family and my friends. I am scared of death. But the thought is sticky and it's been so, so frustrating. My anxiety has been so frustrating. I feel so lost and like nothing I'm trying to fix my issues is working very well. NOCD therapy has been one of the only things to help in the long term, but I still get terrified of certain obsessions like suicide. I don't really know what to do, if anyone has any advice or any personal experience that may help, anything would be nice right now. I've felt so lost trying to figure it all out.

tayanominous

Date posted: 19w

Can therapist make you feel worse?

So I’ve been going to an ocd therapist for abt 2-3 months now and she’s starting to make me feel very nervous and anxious I even started crying, she wanted me to do exposures that were to much for me and I got rlly upset and Burt out into tears and she just didn’t say anything and just sat there for a good 10 seconds doing nothing this is starting to repeat nearly every session and I’m very frustrated should I get a new therapist or do I just be nice and tough it out?

Lizethh

Date posted: 16w

I've been doing better but...

Today I had my follow up appointment with my psychologist, I left feeling worse, I loved the psychologist I spoke to last time he was very informed and understanding, this time I got an appointment with someone who he supervises and I feel like she didn't allow me to speak, she didn't allow me to explain my thoughts or feelings, she told me I have to take my medication or she won't be able to continue helping me, which I understand but im terrified of medication I can't get over it, she said if i start the prozac and it doesn't work then I'll have to get on antipsychotics which seems a bit extreme to me considering i have no psychotic symptoms matter of fact she didn't even allow me to explain my symptoms and i feel like there's so many other antidepressants that could work before getting on antipsychotics🙁 this didn't help me at all considering the episode of ocd i just got through was about me becoming psychotic, I just feel let down and misunderstood, I almost felt as if she was mad at me for the buspar not working she said "you didn't really try it you just took it for a week so if you stopped it it's like you gave up on yourself" but it kept me up 2 nights in a row and i couldnt function from the anxiety 😞

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