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- 41w
FiddyKFiddyK
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- 41w
I understand the urge but you don't need to tell a partner everything. Most people don't tell each other everything they think or feel. That is fine. I think communicating to them about OCD and what it is would be the important thing to do. Worrying about ruining every relationship is not going to help. It is only fueling the OCD.
justme22justme22
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- 41w
Thank you for your reply and yes your right and I did try to tell them about my OCD but they said I was making it up and they are excuses it was a four year relationship and OCD just made everything so complicated and it was draining both of us I felt like I was being so unfair we decided to let it go and ever since that I've tried to get into relationships and I ruin them before they even get started most of them don't understand the complexity of my OCD and I don't blame them it is a very complicated thing but this all makes me feel so isolated and lonely 😢
FiddyKFiddyK
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- 41w
@Stupidbrain22 So if a partner is willing to blow off your mental health as an "excuse" then that's not someone to be with. I think jumping into any relationship when you are struggling so much with OCD might not be a good idea. My partner and I just separated with the intent to work on ourselves and then see if we want to continue a relationship. Focus on yourself. Love yourself. Be compassionate towards yourself and you will be better able to manage your OCD. When you feel ready to date again, look for someone who will try to understand what you are going through. They don't need to fully understand, they just need to try. That's a sign of someone that really cares.
justme22justme22
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- 41w
@AnonD Thank you for your reply again and I think you're right I should really take time for myself to reflect and just focus on myself and when I feel better I can try then
FiddyKFiddyK
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- 41w
@Stupidbrain22 Exactly! Don't be in a rush to find someone. The better you love yourself, the better you can love someone else. And the more confident you will be about managing your OCD.
justme22justme22
- Date posted
- 41w
@FiddyK Thank you 😊 I really appreciate your help
niu niu
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- 41w
Of course you will if you want to. The thing with OCD is not that you need to „solve it” to be bearable and be able to be in a relationship but rather understanding it to a point where you might be able to explain it to somebody without identifying with it too much because at the and of the day OCD is not a result of your feelings but of your fears. And that is something that takes time. Hang on there and keep on being gracious with yourself!
justme22justme22
- Date posted
- 41w
Thank you I really needed to hear that part saying "OCD is not a result of your feelings but of your fears" I really appreciate the reply thank you 😊
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