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I'm really going through this right now. And I feel sad how much time I'm wasting on it instead of things I actually enjoy. I try to set boundaries but sometimes I break them. Like I will schedule a time to 'worry' then say that's enough. It takes time and practice.

Hi June. Try imagining when you sneeze, you're focused on sneezing but nothing else. Maybe you notice your eyes close, but you never wonder if you can sneeze with your eyes open or any issues that can prevent the sneeze or predict what harm this sneeze brings. Now extend that for a longer time of just the sneeze feeling and that's what sort of what life is without ruminating. The issue has come, is here, and is gone all at once so no thinking is needed. Another neutral version is trying to write a copy of someone's grocery list. There's no "what if they need this or that" it's "i can't assume or change anything, it's better if I just copy and get this list because that's their request and boundary". Nowadays I'm a bit daydreaming or Journaling or playing games with friends. I'm socializing or just watching the sky more to just be human rather than doing things to act like someone's idea of a human.

Sounds rough! I ruminate badly occasionally. What helps me is to find something so engaging that I can only focus on it. A scary or intense movie, trying to solve a problem or invent something, or just talking with someone about something else. Sometimes it comes back after I stop, but sometimes it doesn't. IDK if you're ok with horror, but a good scare can really reset my headspace! You can also try holding ice, since that shocks the system.