I. Was so afraid to have sex with my husband. This is making me so afraid that im gay. I feel sexual attraction to men. I don’t know what’s going on. Has this happened to anyone?
Yes, this has happened to me and my girlfriend. Remember that OCD attacks the things you care about most. Obviously you care about your husband and OCD is pouncing on that relationship by tormenting you. From experience, this fear will subside if you don’t allow it to grow. It’s easier said than done, please talk with professional, however just know that it’s okay and you’re not your thoughts.
@Motionless You’re right. Thank you for helping me not feel alone
Yes, I relate so much, but for me it’s more POCD than “am I gay?” I’ve definitely had moments where I was scared to have sex with my boyfriend because of intrusive thoughts like, “what if I imagine him not being an adult?” or “what if I’m just faking being attracted to him?” It gets even more confusing because my ROCD also kicks in, and suddenly everything feels like one big anxiety spiral. I know the content of the thoughts might look different, but I feel like they come from the same fear, this terrifying “what if I’m secretly someone I don’t want to be?” And what makes it worse is that sex is so vulnerable for people like us. You’re letting your guard down, being super present, and OCD hates that. So it throws every disturbing or doubt-filled thought it can at you right in that moment. And honestly? You might be scared just because you’re anticipating that OCD is going to strike. Like… having sex with your husband is literally the straightest thing you could do lol, and because OCD is all about uncertainty and doubt, it targets that even harder. It’s like “wait, you’re doing something that should feel safe and aligned? Let me mess that up real quick.” You’re not alone in this. These thoughts feel so real, but they’re not a reflection of who you are, they’re just OCD doing what it does. Be gentle with yourself, sending so much love your way 🤍🫂
I’m curious behind why you’re afraid. For me I’m super scared to have sex with my boyfriend because of the pain but more so due to religious ocd and the fact that we aren’t married. I think figuring out why you’re scared to have sex will help you feel better about the situation
@cmax20 I have hocd… I have no idea why.
@Loveconquersall1 I don’t think there’s ever exactly an answer as to why we have ocd. But I do know that there’s a way to come out on the other side, at least I would hope
@Loveconquersall1 Sometimes there just is no reason. Sometimes things happen for no reason. Even if there was, it could be so deep and complicated of a reason, one that developed over years and years of thousands of little experiences that trying to figure it out would be pointless because at the end of the day the WHOLE THING is meaningless (the OCD).
Same /: it’s making me feel like im attracted to girls but i never felt this way before in my life. And it’s also mixing with tocd which absolutely sucks.
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