ROCD

@Tea and Honey That sounds like what I do Forsure. But when my brain is having thoughts that my partner is ugly it’s very confusing and the guilt is so intense. I’m so focused on it I’ll just look at my partner and think this. I just wanted clarity if ocd can make these thoughts feel so true when maybe they’re not.

@Mk3 Yes!!! OCD can make the thoughts feel so true when they are not. Absolutely!!!

@Tea and Honey Okay! I just didn’t know if ocd ONLY made the narrative around the thought feel true But I guess you’re saying it can make the thought itself feel so true too!

@Mk3 Yes! Totally!!!

@Tea and Honey Okay but is a thought feeling totally real the same as it feeling totally true? Lol

@Mk3 If you are trying to figure out if a thought feels totally REAL versus feeling totally TRUE, then you are still trying to put thoughts into different categories. It's really part of OCD when we feel like we have to differentiate our thoughts into all these different categories. Instead, you need to give yourself the freedom not to figure out any of this!!!! Just treat all thoughts the same. They are just thoughts, and that means they are all meaningless. Can you give me some specific examples about where this is troubling you? Is it in a relationship where you were worried that you might actually dislike your significant other?

@Tea and Honey So basically I love and adore my partner beyond words lol. But I’ve gone through different themes of stuff all focused on my healthy relationship. I was stuck on the fact that in some moments I think he looks ugly. And I’ve realized it honestly doesn’t matter even if this is true! Even though that’s been difficult to. And now it’s evolved into thinking I may think he’s ugly in general. And I’m trying to understand if ocd can make this feel as real/true as it does etc. The little details of figuring it all out drives me nuts! So I saw a video of how the thoughts can feel real & im like well does that also mean true? All the little stupid details. Oh not to mention the TERRIBLE guilt and urge to confess. And then I try to figure out why i want to confess. When it doesn’t matter bc confessing is a compulsion no matter what and I shouldn’t do it.

@Mk3 Ok, the best thing to do is just stop trying to figure it all out. Tell yourself it doesn't matter if it's true or not. You clearly love him and want to stay. So just let your thoughts go however crazy they want to. It doesn't matter. Try to stop trying to figure out the thoughts or if you really think he's ugly or not. And definitely don't confess!! And then try to live life without dealing with these OCD questions that we are never able to solve!! :):)