What do you do when an OCD fear comes true?

My mom is a kindergarten teacher, and today there was an active shooter at her elementary school during field day. Thank god no one got hurt, but a lot of children/teachers were left incredibly distressed, including my mom. This is my exact fear I’ve been dreading. I’ve been engaging in checking compulsions where I check my moms location every hour of every day. I’m pissed off about our gun laws for this exact reason. I’m so angry. Fortunately I do ERP, and it helps so much. However, what do you do if/when your ocd fears come true?

please44I

Date posted: 13w

I'd say it's a different kind of ERP for the fear to happen in real time 😭 I know you're probably blaming yourself for this though, remind yourself that this is not your fault

Gmoki

Date posted: 13w

@please44I Thank you so much, you’re so kind❤️im trying. Today was harder for me, I made another post a few minutes ago about trusting people. I’m not sure if this is apart of what’s triggered it. I feel horrible

JediMJ

Date posted: 13w

I’m so sorry this happened. I don’t know that I have anything helpful to say except I care and I’m glad no one was physically hurt. It will take a while for both you and your mom to process of this. Feel your feelings and give yourself space to do that. I know you’ll be thinking about it, but try not to let yourself spiral. I want to say something like it’s not really your OCD fear coming true…meaning your OCD fear didn’t manifest itself. Like how every time I get on a plane, I think it will crash. It never has, but if it does, it won’t be because I was afraid it would. But it’s valid to feel the way you feel. I just don’t want your OCD to jump to any conclusions, that’s all. Be gentle with yourself as you deal with this. If they send counselors to the school for people who want to talk, I’d go if you can. They are trained to deal with these situations, unlike me. I just wanted to send you my support.

Gmoki

Date posted: 13w

@JediMJ Omg thank you so so so so so much. I really appreciate the fact that you took your time to show your support. It means a ton. I know the situation is kind of odd given that it actually came true. I made another post a few minutes ago about trusting people. Like I said above, I don’t know if this is what maybe triggered ocd today or what, but I’ve been so anxious. I’m taking your advice and trying not to spiral, but it’s really hard. I’m just frustrated. Fortunately, I have ERP on Monday. I really hope it helps with this fear. :( thank you💜💜

hereintheUK

Date posted: 25w

OCD based in real fear……

How do any of you guys deal with OCD that’s latched on to something real? I don’t mean real event OCD but a real thing?

Anony1314

Date posted: 24w

A VERY distressed mom. Someone anyone help!

Please comment. Just say if follows along the OCD pattern or not. I don't need reassurance per se! My daughter was laying across me and every time I breathed a certain way I was getting a groinal sensation. I kept breathing like that anyways (ugh idk why), and then my mind told me I had hurt/a**aulted her that I might as well do something else to hurt because what's more. So idk why or what overcame me other than the thought of doing it because my mind told me I had hurt her already ("my mind literally made me question what to do and I guess the only thing I could come up with was using my elbow) and causing another feeling but it came across my mind to elbow her, and I elbowed her crotch or side/thigh area. Which caused another very unwanted groinal sensation. Then I began FREAKING smooth out. And I've been stressing since. I feel like as a mom I don't deserve to be hers anymore. Idk what overcame me but my therapist says it's all OCD. I was doing SO well! Is this really OCD? This has all caused me a great amount of anxiety. I feel like a terrible person and mom. I just need help knowing if this is OCD. Not wanting reassurance. Just wanting to know if this lines up with the POCD I've been diagnosed with by my current therapist.

POCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 22w

Irrational Fears

Usually my compulsions are always motivated by fear. I feel like a child when I have compulsions. Like for example, my brain convinces me that someone is in my house and I need to open every cabinet and all the shower curtains, and do tons of other crazy things like march instead of walking so that if someone where to shoot at my legs they'd have less of a chance of hitting me. How do I stop it? I am just going about my day and I can see in my head, myself getting attacked or something and so my only option to calm myself down is to do a bunch of random actions that will keep me "safe". Does anyone else experience this? Or convince themselves that they are under Milo Murphys law? That anything bad that can happen to them will, so they need to never do anything that could result in anything bad, and avoid everything? And how do you convince yourself you're not in danger?

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