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Breakup
Finally my partner decided to break up with me, and I feel totally empty. He wants an open relationship, which I can’t handle. Just feel broken inside 💔
Finally my partner decided to break up with me, and I feel totally empty. He wants an open relationship, which I can’t handle. Just feel broken inside 💔
Hi, love🫶Just wanted to say that you’re not alone for feeling that way. Breakups suck big time, and the fact that you stayed true to yourself and didn’t let him talk you into something you weren’t okay with is AMAZING. The truth is, not everyone is going to be right for us, and that’s okay! You wanted different things. It hurts when the people you love don’t have the same mindset as you do. But it doesn’t make you a bad person, or an undesirable person. You will find someone one day who wants what’s best for you💗Don’t let OCD tell you otherwise! Good luck🫶
I’m so sorry. But I’m also proud of you for not complying with his request to open up the relationship. Many of us with OCD are people pleasers. You may feel broken now, but you are standing in your worth.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet! You are amazing and you deserve amazing!
I’m so sorry :( This is the best decision for you because going along with it and trying to play the role of the “cool girlfriend” would’ve hurt you so much. Open relationships severely increase the risks of jealousy and very serious physical health scares, so I agree with the other commenter that you did indeed dodge several bullets lol. Your ex saved you from that. And don’t feel bad about yourself, girl. It just wasn’t gonna work 🫶 But you can find the right partner for you which I can see is a partner who will want you and ONLY you 😊❤️🩹 You also have a community here for you
I would never do an open relationship either. Way to stand your ground. You will get someone better.
i couldn't take this anymore. maybe i'll just let ocd win this time. it's too hard to not have a clear conscience everytime i'm with my bf cuz my mind is telling me i'm unfaithful and don't deserve to be happy. i feel like i'll never get better anymore. i already told myself many times to stop attracting attention from other people especially to people i'm having false attraction to. but i did it again yesterday, right after i smiled a little extra in front of that girl i might be attracted to i could feel the massive anxiety in my chest. already decided last week that i might be actually attracted to her so it's best to fully avoid her. i avoided her with the best i could, but we're in the same classroom and i saw her in my peripheral vision looking at us (my bf and i) whispered to myself not to make any mistake i'll regret, but then i felt like i lose control and laugh a little extra. i searched micro cheating and it says there "trying to impress someone you're attracted to" and now i want to break up with my bf. the guilt is too strong. i couldn't sleep at night.
I feel so sad, alone, scared and hopeless. Until two months ago there was not even the remote possibility of being anything other than heterosexual and now the idea that I could find out that I was lesbian or bisexual terrifies me to death. Everything was born from the fact that I didn't feel sexual desire towards my ex-boyfriend and I started to be afraid that it was because I was a lesbian... how can I be a lesbian or bisexual if everything was born from this? I would like to run away from myself and my head. I would really like to go back and go back to my life before. I can't take it anymore. I just want to live my life like before
I’ve been trying my best with ERP and just everything that’s going on. I have severe OCD, GAD, PMDD, panic disorder, recently diagnosed ADHD, and currently experiencing a major depressive episode. Apparently. I was taking a break from this app but I really need support right now. My family is honestly really mean and not understanding of what I’m going through. Right now it’s gotten bad to the point I had to withdrawal from my last semester of university. My only support is my boyfriend and he’s now planning to join the military. I won’t be able to talk to him for 3 months and I feel really scared of being alone with all of this. I know I shouldn’t depend on him to begin with but right now I’m at an extremely low point and I feel like I won’t make it alone. There hasn’t been a single day we haven’t texted and talked in 4 years. I feel really scared, but I don’t want to hold him back. You guys, I feel so sad and terrified right now. I don’t want him to go, he’s all I have.
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