What is it when you are afraid you have no physical attraction. Yo your partner but you see a future, you want to have kids, you don’t wanna be with anyone else even tho that is a worry. And I can see myself making love
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@Enthusiast What about comparing? I am stuck in a cycle of comparing him to my ex crush which I find somewhat more attractive but I get his face when I see my boyfriend sometimes and it’s so disturbing. How do I break this cycle? My brain keeps telling me my ex crush is simply better since he’s more attractive (ik that’s not true and not what I believe) but it’s so tough kissing/ cuddling at times :/ any advice?
@Enthusiast What if I feel not a lot of physical attraction? Or it wavers like moment to moment? I still want to marry him but I can’t help but think abt it every time I see him and I’m afraid because I don’t want to end things
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@Enthusiast You are incredibly helpful thank you 🙏
Wanna marry my partner , have no excitement feelings? Scared to lose attraction? Can’t see clear? Even though I have every right and reason to
Not reassurance seeking just want to know if someone else has dealt with this. When I mention marriage and stuff, my brain and body feel off and it feels as if I don’t want it. I don’t feel excited talking abt it even tho I talk abt it. I can’t tell if I actually don’t want it or if it’s ocd. Is there any true way to tell? Has anyone else dealt with this? When I talk about honey moon or whatever it feels like maybe I don’t want it. I think it’s commitment issues
So I talked to my therapist about some things, and I’m doing a lot better. I’ve realized I’m obsessed with infatuation and feelings. When I expect to feel really goodly eyed over my boyfriend I don’t, sometimes I am most of the time I’m not. However I cuddle him, have desires for sex with him, I love him, I love being with him, he’s funny, his personality is attractive. I also want my physical attraction to grow. I’m afraid if I don’t look at him an ogle that it means I should be with someone I can do that with.But physical attraction is fleeting. He’s amazing he should be the father of my kids, I am not wanting to give up. This is half ocd half not. I wand to feel a certain way but honesty ? I have to allow myself to feel these things and stop fearing. Like allow myself to reflect on his heart and the things I love instead of focusing on obsessing over something I don’t like.
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