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I had a bf who knew I had OCD so he chose to educate himself on it and supported me all the way through it. If someone reallyyy cares for you, they will stick by you and try to help regardless. When you get married, your partner promises to be by your side “through sickness and in health.” If they don’t follow that promise, they’re going against their vows. Of course it’s better to have a decent mental health and to work on it if it’s not good. That does make for healthier relationships, yes. But someone telling you that you can’t find/keep a man to love you period, if you’re not in a perfect shape- that’s just mean and false. There are marriages will all types of people. There are people with physical disabilities that are in relationships- blind people, people missing limbs, deaf people, etc. It is false that only perfectly healthy people will have a marriage. On YouTube, check out the series “Born Different” on the channel called “Truly.” It shows all different types of people with disabilities who are thriving in their hobbies & relationships

Other people’s thoughts are just that; other people’s thoughts. They have no intel on your hopes, dreams, and future path. Your mental health may impact marriage prospects, it may not — you don’t know, but you CAN move forward in creating the life you want. Also someone who actually loves you will want to walk with you on your mental health journey instead of walking away. So take a breath, leave the thoughts of others behind, and go for what you want. 🫶🩵

Sorry to hear that. That’s pretty insensitive of them. I think we are all a little mentally unstable. I have harm and religious ocd as well as others and I’ve been married 10 years and together for 18. So don’t let OCD take your life away. If you aren’t in therapy get into therapy with an ERP certified therapist who specializes in OCD. It’s not easy but you can do it!

I’m sorry that your hopes are down. That is certainly not true. A good husband, although certainly not perfectly, isn’t going to judge or reject you because you have a biochemical imbalance going on in your brain. We all have challenges that we are facing and your husband is also going to be a flawed and imperfect man who may also struggle involuntarily with some mental health battle at some point in your lives together. Will it take some time and discernment finding someone who will love and not judge you? Maybe. Who knows? I also have severe religious and harm OCD. You are doing exactly what you need to be doing. Taking medication and refocusing when these intrusive thoughts come up. You’re getting stronger everyday and becoming a healthier person who cannot only love your future spouse, but do so with less of grip that this silly OCD has on you. You’re beating this and marriage will happen when it’s time. I hated when people told me this, but don’t rush it. Gods got a plan.