I have severe religious,harm and different OCD thoughts and i'm managing it but today i was hearing my relatives talking about Marriage and that if your mental health is bad Marriage is not suitable for you and no Man or his family would accept me as a wife if they knew my mental health condition and that i'm taking medication...
I had a bf who knew I had OCD so he chose to educate himself on it and supported me all the way through it. If someone reallyyy cares for you, they will stick by you and try to help regardless. When you get married, your partner promises to be by your side “through sickness and in health.” If they don’t follow that promise, they’re going against their vows. Of course it’s better to have a decent mental health and to work on it if it’s not good. That does make for healthier relationships, yes. But someone telling you that you can’t find/keep a man to love you period, if you’re not in a perfect shape- that’s just mean and false. There are marriages will all types of people. There are people with physical disabilities that are in relationships- blind people, people missing limbs, deaf people, etc. It is false that only perfectly healthy people will have a marriage. On YouTube, check out the series “Born Different” on the channel called “Truly.” It shows all different types of people with disabilities who are thriving in their hobbies & relationships
Other people’s thoughts are just that; other people’s thoughts. They have no intel on your hopes, dreams, and future path. Your mental health may impact marriage prospects, it may not — you don’t know, but you CAN move forward in creating the life you want. Also someone who actually loves you will want to walk with you on your mental health journey instead of walking away. So take a breath, leave the thoughts of others behind, and go for what you want. 🫶🩵
Sorry to hear that. That’s pretty insensitive of them. I think we are all a little mentally unstable. I have harm and religious ocd as well as others and I’ve been married 10 years and together for 18. So don’t let OCD take your life away. If you aren’t in therapy get into therapy with an ERP certified therapist who specializes in OCD. It’s not easy but you can do it!
I’m sorry that your hopes are down. That is certainly not true. A good husband, although certainly not perfectly, isn’t going to judge or reject you because you have a biochemical imbalance going on in your brain. We all have challenges that we are facing and your husband is also going to be a flawed and imperfect man who may also struggle involuntarily with some mental health battle at some point in your lives together. Will it take some time and discernment finding someone who will love and not judge you? Maybe. Who knows? I also have severe religious and harm OCD. You are doing exactly what you need to be doing. Taking medication and refocusing when these intrusive thoughts come up. You’re getting stronger everyday and becoming a healthier person who cannot only love your future spouse, but do so with less of grip that this silly OCD has on you. You’re beating this and marriage will happen when it’s time. I hated when people told me this, but don’t rush it. Gods got a plan.
I feel like I’ll never lead a normal life again with OCD, my thoughts have begun to be convince especially about POCD. I feel like so sad and down that this will be my life forever. I’ll never get to fall in love again without intrusive thoughts. I’ll never be worth falling in love with. I can never be intimate again. I’m just done, my life is over. I can’t even look at my nephew and niece anymore without the smile fading. It feels like I’m so nasty and then my brain convinces me this is how I feel. That there’s some part of me that is a p*do and that’s it. I’m a disgusting human being for that. I just feel hopeless
I feel like one of the worst things about ocd are the disturbing images or the ‘little movies’ that replay in your head over and over again. I have the worst sexual images with one of my family members that actually so bad that I can’t even look in the mirror. And it’s even worse that I have a lovely boyfriend and I’m so disgusted of myself that I feel like I don’t deserve him and I feel like I can’t be with him because of these thoughts, even he is the most precious thing in my life. These sexual images are so horrible and what makes it even worse that in these pictures I always see myself as someone who enjoys it. I know how to deal with this anymore. My mind is trying to convince me that that I actually like these images and thoughts and this is the hardest part, that I’m doubting myself. These images pop up in my head so naturally that I always question myself if I actually don’t like it why it comes so naturally or how can my brain picture things like this if I don’t like it. It’s getting worse day by day. It’s in my head 24/7, can’t concentrate on anything else, I can’t eat because I’m constantly throwing up. And my mom has to sleep with me every night because I’m so disturbed by my own mind. My parents know that there’s something wrong with me, they think I’m depressed but sadly It’s not something I can talk openly about with them. I’m seeing a therapist next week but I’m genuinely scared to open up about these thoughts that I’m having.
I've opened up recently to my boyfriend about my ocd itself: he knew I had it, just didnt rlly understanded it. Today, I was feeling really awful because of my incest ocd, and the toughts were awful, so I decided to open up. BAD IDEA! he said it was ok and stuff but he also said he did not understand: he is, fairly, disgusted. Plus, he knowns my relatives, which probably made him even more sick. Im so sad, he is now more disgusted by me, and I am too.
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