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Reassurance
Sorry for getting on everyone's nerves by reassurance seeking. I am just struggling and feel like a real P. I just want some help while I wait on my next therapy appointment
Sorry for getting on everyone's nerves by reassurance seeking. I am just struggling and feel like a real P. I just want some help while I wait on my next therapy appointment
No worries ❤️ We all struggle sometimes with reassurance- seeking on this app
@OneDayAtATimee Thanks friend. Someone accused me of acting on the thought. Being a P. Now I don't know the truth and it's sent me in a deep spiral
@Anony1314 I’m sorry they made you feel like a P :( Keep in mind that they are a stranger online who doesn’t fully know your heart, your mind, or your OCD. So they will say whatever they want and that doesn’t mean it’s actually true in reality. That’s the unfortunate part of asking for opinions from strangers online- people feel comfortable to say anything (mean things that will hurt you, misinformation, etc.)
It’s not about annoying others, though maybe someone feels that way. We are telling you not to seek reassurance because it’ll only make your OCD way worse (and it has). You have to be able to sit with the discomfort of your intrusive thoughts and NOT take your OCD/intrusive thoughts seriously. That is something very important you have to learn and continually work on when it comes to dealing with OCD.
Hey friend you are going through one of the toughest things imaginable and there is no shame at all to find yourself struggling. We care about you and want to see you get past this and get to a much healthier place - and it absolutely can happen. Being compelled to seek reassurance again and again? That's just what OCD does. And having someone accuse you of actually being a P must feel INCREDIBLY distressing. I totally concur with the other commenter on your previous post that the person in question doesn't know WTF they are talking about. Please understand that there are trained, professional talk-therapists that work with clients everyday who aren't trained in how to recognize OCD (much less how to treat it). And if trained therapists sometimes can't diagnose it - even with a patient that they are actually treating in person - how the heck is some rando person online possibly going to know WTF they are talking about? May I ask, since you mentioned your next therapy appointment, are you working with an OCD specialist trained in ERP therapy, either through NOCD or elsewhere?
Hi everyone. I'm feeling kinda scared because I have to wait a whole month to start ERP therapy, but I feel like I need to start doing exposures now because the longer I wait, the more anxiety I get. It just feels like the OCD monster is getting worse. One thing that helps me is asking one person about an obsession I have...asking a person that I trust, and then doing an exposure after I get the "ok" to do it. I feel like I do need 1 reassurance and then I can go ahead and do it. I know i'm not supposed to ask for reassurance at all, but i dont think you're supposed to do ERP on your own right? Does anyone have any suggestions for what to do while waiting for therapy? PS-the reason there is a wait is bc she's on vacation. After she's back we will meet regularly.
I'm struggling. Not going to seek the reassurance I feel I NEED.
I genuinely can't help but feel irredeemable over every little mistake made or regret I've had. It's so up and down, but I just miss the certainty. Knowing "this is who I am." I'm so disconnected from myself. Like, I'm really, really trying. Today is really rough... I got triggered the other night, and it's been hell since. I've been fighting seeking reassurance. I want it so, so incredibly bad, but I know it won't help me :( Some days, I just don't want to be here. It's funny because yesterday I felt amazing until I got triggered. I just immediately spiraled after that. I don't know. Does it genuinely get better? Will therapy really help me? Sometimes, I think maybe this is the best it'll get, and that scares me. Sorry for the vent. I'm just feeling so overwhelmingly anxious right now. I can't even cry (due to Zoloft). It feels claustrophobic somehow, having all these emotions trapped inside of my body with nowhere to go 😭
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