OCD and sex

Hi everyone I could really use some help on this topic. It’s hard to admit and talk about but after being on here I see that I’m not the only one! Still I would love some support and advice with how to deal with those unwanted sexual thoughts. For me it’s so uncomfortable and honestly gross when sexual thoughts get out of hand with normal people and also do extremely out of hand that even loved ones get involved. Like when I watch tv and all of a sudden I have these gross thoughts that I know if I accept they will go away but how can you accept something so gross? Would love some help!

Dp17

Date posted: 18d

We are taught in ERP therapy that the more you train your brain to recognize these thoughts, the less scary they become. My therapist has me doing a lot of written exposures, since all my compulsions are mental. It usually starts with “my ocd is giving me the thought that….” And I will write that repeatedly for 3-5 minutes. Eventually I’d progress to just the raw intrusive thought- and just write that down over and over. It takes power away from that thought, and sometimes writing it can be helpful. Or speaking it out loud repeatedly, etc. It can be so scary writing those words down especially when you don’t want anyone to see them, but it has helped me a lot. If you have a therapist, I’d suggest doing this together as a start as I’m not a doctor :)

YaynoOCD

Date posted: 17d

@Dp17 Thank you so much this is great advice! I’ll have to try that

Anonymous

Date posted: 18d

I definitely know what you mean. I have these unwanted thoughts and it’s debilitating. I just started ERP therapy last week, and one of the things I learned is that OCD has an addiction on your distress. It’s like a bully. While it’s infuriating to do, and I still haven’t fully grasped it because I just gave into my research and mental compulsions today, really pushing yourself to accept that you had that thought will make the OCD want to just stop picking on you over time. At some point, when you get a hang of the ERP and live with that uncertainty, you take away its power. Hope this helps!

Anonymous

Date posted: 18d

@Anonymous Also, anyone please correct me if I am wrong!!! I want to learn better on how to overcome this!!!

JH823

Date posted: 18d

@Anonymous This is great advice, and I agree. I would also say for me is I really internally laugh at those thoughts when they arise, and laugh at the fear of them. And I remind myself that everyone has those thoughts, the only difference with me is I think it’s a big deal and that I’m supposed to panic about it! But thats just ocd!

YaynoOCD

Date posted: 17d

@Anonymous Thank you I really appreciate the support!

Serio?

Date posted: 18d

I think just not engaging with them. Letting them be there, letting go.

issphra 🫶🏻

Date posted: 25w

Help, Meta OCD/POCD?

I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?

nae nae

Date posted: 24w

Need a bit of advice!! 🎀

+18 only!! TW for sexual content!! (This might be TMI, but I need advice) So, this is kinda embarrassing, but I haven't been able to self-pleasure without feeling shame or guilt. It's so bad that I've just stopped altogether, but I don't want to avoid it. It was something I enjoyed and was comfortable with, and now, because of OCD, it just makes me feel... gross. It's a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do, but my mind just tries to convince me that it's wrong. Had anyone else dealt with this? It's not a huge issue, but I'm tired of unnecessary shame. :(

Brigitta

Date posted: 22w

OCD takes over me

I feel like one of the worst things about ocd are the disturbing images or the ‘little movies’ that replay in your head over and over again. I have the worst sexual images with one of my family members that actually so bad that I can’t even look in the mirror. And it’s even worse that I have a lovely boyfriend and I’m so disgusted of myself that I feel like I don’t deserve him and I feel like I can’t be with him because of these thoughts, even he is the most precious thing in my life. These sexual images are so horrible and what makes it even worse that in these pictures I always see myself as someone who enjoys it. I know how to deal with this anymore. My mind is trying to convince me that that I actually like these images and thoughts and this is the hardest part, that I’m doubting myself. These images pop up in my head so naturally that I always question myself if I actually don’t like it why it comes so naturally or how can my brain picture things like this if I don’t like it. It’s getting worse day by day. It’s in my head 24/7, can’t concentrate on anything else, I can’t eat because I’m constantly throwing up. And my mom has to sleep with me every night because I’m so disturbed by my own mind. My parents know that there’s something wrong with me, they think I’m depressed but sadly It’s not something I can talk openly about with them. I’m seeing a therapist next week but I’m genuinely scared to open up about these thoughts that I’m having.

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