Hey everyone I am new here. I had my third session here and I am quite confused — one of my therapist told me that what I was talking about was not about ocd and quickly shut me down. I am not going to lie when he said that I felt really bad and was too embarrassed to ask him if our conversations are exclusively about ocd. Are they? Thx guys 💕💕💕
Hi! Also new, I think if they’re in a therapist role they should be open to giving you therapy in different sectors since OCD can be comorbid, but that’s just my opinion.
That sounds horrible! So sorry that happened to you. I agree with the first commenter. OCD is a wide spectrum. If anything they could have been more polite
That sounds terrible. I would fire him and find someone else. You deserve care that doesn’t make you feel bad. And if he needed to redirect the conversation, he could have done it in a way that explained why, rather than shutting you down. I’m sorry this happened to you—it’s a reflection of him, not you. You didn’t do anything wrong.
Yeah, I got this once from my therapist during a session. I was talking and they said, this is not supposed to be a talk therapy session, let’s do an exposure! I was a little taken aback. The therapist wasn’t rude about it, but it felt a little invalidating.
That was extremely unprofessional. Therapy is a very vulnerable time. Shutting you down and making you embarrassed for you bringing up any thoughts and feelings is not okay. There are much kinder ways to redirect the conversation and even then OCD is very big spectrum and anything can be related to it. You didn’t do anything wrong. You did exactly what therapy is meant for. He is just a very bad therapist. If you want to cancel you future appointments that is completely understandable.
Ditto to everyone on this board. I understand not providing reassurance if it's an OCD behavior, but people are people regardless of whether they have OCD and you can't really separate out the good, the bad, and the ugly whenever you feel like it if it doesn't come in the right shape or form. The therapist may not want to talk about everyday problems, but to completely fair and direct.. that's literally the base minimum competency of being a therapist and what theyre supposed to teach you when you go to school for it (even if it's just a basic reflection on their end), and a skilled OCD therapist should be able to catch the reassurance seeking live-play if it becomes an issue AND use that as an opportunity for exposures. And I get that therapists are people too man, I've had several great therapists in the past flip a switch when what is being talked about is a sore spot or a weakness of theirs, but if that's what you need that day that day and theyre not providing it, go somewhere else and let them pay their mortgage another way. The whole point of therapy is to let people make their own decisions and get better at making decisions in ways that matter to them (check out self-determination theory) and when you don't let the other person communicate in the way that they want to there's a whole host of other issues the client is going to have to learn to deal with (usually identity issues, depression, anger, and anxiety because it's just a big ol' Bowenian triangulation cycle that you'll have to learn to differentiate in after that). There's no lack of therapists these days, just a lack of good ones. But anywho, yeah, if you're crying and NOT speaking up then that's on them, not you.
Should I start therapy? What if I say something that they think is odd, strange, illegal, etc.? What if they tell me it is not OCD? These are just a small handful of the things that I have heard from people who are worried about starting therapy. And, it is unfortunate that these types of questions, and the fear of their answers, keep people suffering. If you have these questions, I want to know about them. I hope that you will gain some insight and inspiration to take that step and try out NOCD ERP for your OCD. So, let me hear from you and let's overcome these fears together. Ask me Anything in the comments below.
I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.
My name is Abbey and I’m a 14 year old girl struggling with OCD, I don’t like to say my OCD is severe but it’s the truth. I haven’t been officially diagnosed but I’m still being treated for it kinda via medication by my doctor. The reason I’m nervous about starting my therapy journey is I’m worried the therapist won’t understand what im saying or take it the wrong way and think I’m a bad person even though I know I’m a good hearted person. If you have any tips to overcome my fear of therapy please share! ✌️🧡
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