Anyone here who really thinks

@💟 I’m married to a man I love. So that’s not so ok with me…🥺

@💟 Im so confused with these types of statements. Soocd is supposed to be ego-dystonic meaning it goes against who you know yourself to be. Would you say this to someone with pocd? Even if they turn out to be a pedo, that’s ok too?

@confused writer I’m in the same boat as you. Certain spikes feel even more convincing than others at times. I go to bed and wake up thinking about being gay. It’s 24/7.

@confused writer If you value to live with your husband, don't let OCD trick you into rumination. OCD thoughts can feel very real - but underneath is the real you.

@confused writer aw oh no I'm sorry. What's important though is that you love your husband. And sexuality can be very fluid, being a little into women doesn't mean you won't be into your husband anymore. But since you have this theme I'd say it's more likely it is just your ocd.

@anonymous00981 Yes. But I don’t know what is the real me anymore because I have SO MANY MEMORIES. I just always thought I loved boys and now I don’t anymore and that’s scary.

@Estrid Yes. But I don’t know what is the real me anymore because I have SO MANY MEMORIES. I just always thought I loved boys and now I don’t anymore and that’s scary.

@anonymous00981 It's for practicing acceptance. So yes even that theme, I'd much rather someone tell me it's ok rather than imply it's only ok if I'm not. Because I'll never be 100% certain. So the room for acceptance if it's true has to be there.

@anonymous00981 Of course not....!!! That's not what it means - OCD is the doubting disorder where you doubt fir example if you are a p - because that's the last thing you wanna be.

@confused writer You don't know because you are analyzing and ruminating too much, that makes you confused. You have to let these thoughts be, instead live your life. I know it sounds easy - it isn't, but it's true. Even a person without OCD should be confusef if they put so much attention to random thoughts that pop up in their minds.

@Estrid Exactly! The correct ERP suggestion would be to sit with uncertainty and accept “maybe, maybe not” or that the thoughts are irrelevant and your values should help guide you. Not that it’s ok if your fear came true

@confused writer The more you give in to compulsions, the deeper OCD will take you. OCD can feel like it erases your entire identity and rewrites your past, but only if you keep letting it. Do your best to get into therapy or if not, OCD podcasts and workbooks are a great start!

@anonymous00981 The acceptance mindset is crucial to healing! Using SOOCD to reassure yourself that you’re not gay only feeds back into the cycle. OCD is not the thought itself, but your reaction to it.

@OutstandingCutieDisorder I have so many memories that says I’m right. But I do have ocd. So idk. Maybe I really lied to myself. Maybe I’m bi. Maybe I’m gay but I don’t want to lose my husband. 🫠

@confused writer - Sit with that uncertainty as best you can. I know it's hard. But also, you always get to choose to act on what YOU truly want. And like you just said, you don't want to lose your husband. You get to continue choosing him every day! You may not be in control of your thoughts, but you are in control of who you choose and what to give your love to. Sending hope and healing!

@anonymous00981 You bring up a very good point there. Statements like hers/his are very confusing!!