Letâs talk, if you have an answer/need advice/ want to vent, go ahead, Iâll answer. Remember, we are never the thoughts that play in our heads no matter how real or scary they feel â€ïž
Bruh like what?? The other night I visited my best friend like normal but with flowers since her family dog passed away. When we went in her room I noticed she was wearing these little shorts and the room was a little dim and I got a very clear thought. Iâm sure yall know what. Anyway, since then ive been questioning my sexuality even though I have always been sure that even though Iâm physically attracted to women and have had sex with them, I am emotionally, physically, and romantically attracted to men. Iâm going to marry one. I want to be with one because thatâs what I want. Iâve never restricted myself of urges or feelings but when this thought came up I felt very uncomfortable. Sure I think my best friend is a cutie!! But thinking Iâm romantically attracted is really unsettling. I really donât want this happening. And itâs not even the âOmg nooo this will ruin our friendshipâ itâs more of a âthis is so weird because Iâve never felt nor wanted to feel thisâ. OCD is such shit.
@bubbless Much cliche as it sounds, embracing uncertainty is whats got to be done. Try telling yourself âMaybe I am attracted, maybe Im notâ and try to move on with your day. That absolutely does not mean that you accept attraction as true, it just means that you choose to navigate towards other values of yours. Hope this helps and Im here đ©·
I struggle with ROCD & false memory OCD. Specially, I make myself think that I cheated on my boyfriend when we were long distance. Recently, Iâve tried to remember any instance where I have texted or conversed with another male and I tell him all about it. Sometimes I think itâs easier if he left me but I really donât want that. I just started on 20mg Prozac this week. It gives me panic attacks at least once a week
@seasidespree I get how hard that must be, I struggle with false memory as well and its really aching. But you have values that are absolutely none of what ocd tells you. My advice would be, to move towards your values despite of what ocd says to you. â€ïž
Is it okay to use "I am" statements when intrusive thoughts come up? I'm afraid of telling myself the wrong things and it becoming a compulsion. If anyone has advice, I'd appreciate it! đ€
Remember thoughts are just thoughts, feelings are just feelings. We generally cannot control our thoughts or feelings, and even groinal responses. No matter how much you want to, they just happen and they 100% happen more when youâre worried about them happening, instead except it. Say âthatâs just my silly thoughts againâ or whatever it may be, say oh itâs just that silly thing again. Donât try to work it out, donât try to ignore it, allow them to come but donât solve them. Just expect that theyâre there . The best advise I was ever told is OCD is like a drunk person, they start to say silly things such as âomg Iâm such a silly personâ or âOng youâre so great youâre the strongest person aliveâ you donât actually believe what they say because theyâre speaking nonsense, but you most likely will reply with âoh yes youâre rightâ because youâre trying to just please them, but it doesnât mean you agree with them. Youâre just trying to âshut them upâ basically. For example if you kept saying âno Iâm notâ ânot thatâs not trueâ âno donât be sillyâ the drunk person would carry on saying âno yes you areâ etc etc⊠this is the same with ocd, the more you try to argue with it and say âno this isnât trueâ the more itâll say âyes it isâ however if you just say âyes okay youâre rightâ (even tho itâs not) itâll start to show ocd that you arenât picking a fight anymore, youâre just excepting it and itâll start to get easier. Trust me you arenât alone in this. Ocd is scary. But you can do this. Some other techniques that have helped me massively is this⊠When youâre getting these unwanted thoughts etc, name 5 things you can see around you, 2 things you can smell or 2 things you like the smell of, 3 things you can hear and 5 things you can feel, such as touch your hair etc and describe how it feels, etc. this is a way of just distracting yourself. Itâs a very good technique for ocd and I went from getting 20 showed a day due to my ocd down to 3 showers a dayâŠ. From using this. It works!!! Or take deep breaths that also helps people You arenât a bad person, youâre just suffering with ocd and that doesnât make you a bad person
I have something thatâs been on my mind but my post isnât getting any interaction. Only offer advice if youâre willing to respond please!!! People have asked me in the comments to share something and I do and they never answer which makes my mental even worse
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