Anonymous
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Is it normal to think your therapist does not know how to treat ocd? What is a good therapist in ocd?
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OCD and Doubt Go Hand-in-Hand OCD is sometimes called the “doubting disorder” for a reason. It targets what matters most to you—your relationships, values, identity, and yes, even your therapy. So it's common for OCD to latch onto thoughts like: "What if my therapist doesn't know what they're doing?" "What if I'm wasting my time and money?" "What if this isn't the 'right' kind of therapy?" "What if they're missing something really important?" These thoughts can feel urgent and convincing—but they’re often just new disguises for the same OCD need for certainty. When This Becomes a Compulsion Sometimes, the doubting turns into a pattern: Googling therapists’ credentials over and over Comparing your therapist to others online Constantly asking for reassurance about the therapy Switching therapists frequently in search of the “perfect” one Mentally reviewing everything your therapist said to “check” if it was correct This is often called "Therapist Relationship OCD" or “meta OCD”—where OCD attaches itself to the process of therapy itself. What You Can Do Name it: “This might be OCD trying to get certainty again.” Resist reassurance-seeking (even from yourself). Lean in: Practice uncertainty on purpose. e.g., “Maybe my therapist isn’t perfect. I’m willing to keep showing up anyway.” If you truly suspect your therapist isn’t using effective treatment, ask directly and non-confrontationally. For example: "I’ve been learning about ERP as the gold-standard treatment for OCD. Is that something you use in your approach?" I hope that helps a little. As a therapist, I can say that many of those I work with have had this doubt at some point or another. Maybe I'm NOT a good therapist. I strive to be, but I guess there is no certainty....
AnonymousAnonymous
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Thank you!
MZ100MZ100
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I’ve been starting to think this. I’m only 3 sessions in tho and we haven’t even started ERP. Why do you think your therapist doesn’t know how to treat OCD?
AnonymousAnonymous
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She is not a specialist and she wants me to start writing my thoughts and my actions down so I point where it comes from but it makes my ocd worse and no tools to manage it, what have you done in those sessions?
MZ100MZ100
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@Anonymous My therapist has been teaching me about OCD. Then in my session tomorrow we’re gonna start ERP. In my past with other therapists, we’d just talk about my problems which was ineffective.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@MZ100 Thank you, I will see if she does talk therapy without ocd tools, also good luck with the erp!
MZ100MZ100
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@Anonymous Thank you! If she doesn’t you should get a new therapist. I’m sure your therapist is nice, but you are paying her to help you. She needs to have the tools to help you.
izzyyyy24izzyyyy24
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@MZ100 Hey! The first few sessions typically are a lot of talking about what your fears are what triggers you etc it’s normal to not have started erp yet!
OutstandingCutieDisorderOutstandingC...
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Is your therapist an ocd specialist? What are the reasons you doubt their ability?
AnonymousAnonymous
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She is not a specialist that's my doubt, that not everyone knows how to treat it
MZ100MZ100
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@Anonymous I’d change therapists then. I had two different therapists at two different times that assured me they’ve had experience with OCD. They proceeded to give me talk therapy, which doesn’t effectively treat OCD. They were nice, but I paid them for being ineffective. Now I have a new one that specializes in OCD and has training from NOCD. You need to do what’s best for you.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@MZ100 How did you find one? I have tried finding a specialist even online since i am in spain and can't find one
MZ100MZ100
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@Anonymous I went in Microsoft Copilot and searched best OCD therapists in my area. Stumbled across one, read her bio, then started therapy with her. Her bio related to what I was going thru.
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Many people with OCD wonder if their therapist truly understands how to help them. It's important to work with someone who has experience treating OCD, ideally with ERP. If you’re unsure about your current therapist’s experience, you might consider asking them about their approach to OCD or looking for a specialist. If you’re struggling and need more assistance, remember that help is available. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at NOCD to find out how we can support you. Also here are some helpful resources: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/megan-ocandos-journey-to-becoming-an-ocd-expert/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/why-your-therapy-isnt-helping-your-ocd/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/for-years-no-one-listened-to-my-ocd-struggle-im-making-sure-no-one-feels-the-same-way/
Jazlyn CaylaJazlyn Cayla
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I’m having the same issue I think and am wondering what to do next…it’s a bit annoying because I picked my therapist BECAUSE she had OCD listed as one of the things she helps with. But it doesn’t seem like she’s really helping me at all with it. :/
AnonymousAnonymous
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Are you able to switch?
Jazlyn CaylaJazlyn Cayla
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@Anonymous I will if I don’t find her to be adequate enough after this next appointment I have with her this Thursday. I only just met her like 3 times I think. And the last time I had to do a whole safety plan, no time to talk about OCD.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@Jazlyn Cayla I hope you find one that suits you, I am searching for specialized too
Jazlyn CaylaJazlyn Cayla
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@Anonymous If push comes to shove, we can find a therapist on here if they take our insurance. I have Kaiser.
AnonymousAnonymous
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@Jazlyn Cayla I live outside the US but if you have insurance that is a good choice, 200 per session without it haha
Jazlyn CaylaJazlyn Cayla
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@Anonymous I wish I lived outside the US too smh. :/
HereforthevibesHereforthevibes
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Is your therapist part of NOCD?
AnonymousAnonymous
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No, ocd was 200 per session
HereforthevibesHereforthevibes
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@Anonymous Have you heard about the new payment plan options? There’s one that is $50/week now that has been incredibly helpful. I remember when I was starting out on this journey I wondered why ERP therapy was more expensive than talk therapy so I went with non OCD specialty to save money and I set back years on my life. I didn’t realize that just investing in an OCD specialist would have saved me years and so much more money long term than wasting time with a non specialist going in what felt like circles. Anyways, NOCD’s payment plans have been so helpful.
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@Hereforthevibes Thank you, do you have a link to that?
HereforthevibesHereforthevibes
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@Anonymous I had the Intake Team walk me through the payment plan options and booked a quick call here: https://www.treatmyocd.com/therapy_signup/v2?utm_source=google_ads&utm_medium=ppc&utm_campaign=12663844044&utm_adgroup=123244610147&utm_term=nocd&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=12663844044&gbraid=0AAAAADEWRhbouvECw_9qraFXAqRcp7uPg&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI0_yo88ucjgMVMROtBh0SdQezEAAYAiAAEgKzefD_BwE
AnonymousAnonymous
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@Hereforthevibes Is it 50 a week for one session ?
HereforthevibesHereforthevibes
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I think that’s the price for as many sessions as you have that week. You pay off balance over time, but that’s how you can get the help you deserve soon
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