Can I ask a serious question

Not trying to be rude or cheeky but I seriously have a question. Once you know you have ocd and learn about it, how can you then not know when it's ocd that's happening to you? Once you know all the signs and symptoms and have even had therapy. I dont understand it. I really don't. I guess im asking because I hope this doesn't happen to me. Im hoping through learning il be able to manage it. I know this might annoy some people but I really want to understand.

Generiname

Date posted: Yesterday

The best way I could describe it to someone is this. It's like having a bad dream only to realise you're having a bad dream and waking up from it. However these can come per minute instead of per evening. It takes practise, but eventually you'll start having that bad dream and immediately clock it. It's rough, but things get better with practise.

Paris12

Date posted: Yesterday

That's a really good explanation and I can relate to that as a description. It is like a bad dream. And keep waking up. For me it's like once I've become aware what my specific themes are, I know they will try to trick me again and again but im now aware it's ocd and it's my theme so id like to think its not going to be able to continually trick me.

Generiname

Date posted: Yesterday

@Paris12 I think the whole point of practise is, it'll never get rid of the bad dreams but some day you'll be so toughened up you'll roll your eyes and be like "a bad dream again." And wake up! Quicker this time!

✨ Sara✨

Date posted: Yesterday

OCD doesn’t work through logic — it works through doubt, fear, and emotion. The thoughts it creates feel incredibly real and urgent, often targeting the person’s core values or fears. Even if someone has had therapy, OCD can still convince them that “this time it’s different” or “what if it’s not really OCD.” It even makes people doubt whether they truly have OCD at all. That’s why people can fall back into compulsions or mental checking, even when they know better. Awareness helps, but the real challenge is tolerating the uncertainty that OCD creates. That’s why therapy focuses on resisting the urge to get certainty, not on solving the fear itself.

Paris12

Date posted: Yesterday

Thanks for explaining this, it makes a lot of sense to me. What im finding for myself personally is that im managing my ocd through logic. Its logic that's helping me so I find that a bit puzzling in a way. Its like my ocd is not logical or rational in anyway but once i bring logic to it, I can see it for what it is. I do understand this might change for me but I struggle to see how it could. Its like I cant unknow something. I now know something. How does that knowledge disappear?

garlicgorl13

Date posted: Yesterday

So do forgive me, I might get some of the words wrong here but I will say: one of the compulsions i spend the most time doing is ruminating. My most recent fixation it took about a week of me spiraling in the same thought pattern to realize that I was doing this compulsion all day long. What tipped me off was the feeling of not being able to stop ruminating. It started to annoy me that I couldn't think about anything else.

Anonymous 25#

Date posted: 19w

When?

Can someone please tell me at what point did you finally accept that it’s OCD? When did the ERP click for you? When did you just stop buying into the lies of OCD and finally let go? Like what does it take. It’s been 2 years of this for me and I’m in ERP currently and it’s just not clicking 😣 is it just me???

Mack3133!

Date posted: 18w

I’m new to the app, wanting feedback?

I’m new to the app and wanting to know who else experiences this form of ocd. Some background I was a therapist for over 10 years now I am out of the clinical space. So I have background knowledge of ocd but never knew much about relationship ocd. I realized over the last several years with my now fiancé, that I have a hard time just letting go in general, whether that’s an argument or statement or feeling. I want to be able to just accept things at face value and move on (and talk later if my partner is ready as needed). But when conflict arises I can’t disengage till there is a clear resolution. It’s causing serious strife as he can feel trapped and it escalates the argument. I am reading more and this sounds like relationship OCD. Anyone else experience this? Curious on what others have done to work on this for themselves. I do have a therapist but we are not doing work in this area yet as I am realizing this is an actual concern.

Whisper

Date posted: 13w

How do I know I have OCD?

Hey, so I've never actually been diagnosed with OCD. I did a little bit of research, I always thought OCD was organizing things. But I'm not normal, I have this thing where I feel something isn't right. I obsess over it or if I brush my hand over something correctly then it's fixed. Or I have to do this thing on stairs, I'll walk up a few or down them because something isn't right. I read this thing on memories. I know something happened, but then I doubt myself to the point I don't know if it happened. And I think too logically in relationships. I'll put statistics on things and if they might not work out I distance myself, there's other odd things I do. My family always told me I was fine but then said things like I was messed up, and said to just ignore what I felt. Like I was making it up. I don't know what to do, I don't have a doctor currently, I was never diognosed. Is there a way to be sure I have it? Or a way to stop everything? I just want to stop everything, please and thank you. Sorry for the long post. If anyone can help, I would be so thankful.

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