Does anyone ever fear that their obsessions will come true? Have they ever come true. I fear that and I don't want that. I guess I feel triggered about it and.I try to figure it out my using my gut feeling but then it sometimes feels right but then it feels wrong and then I stress and stress etc. It just makes me feel upset. For those wondering I guess its ROCD but I've been in a relationship before.

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

I'm pretty sure all people with OCD fear that their obsessions are true or could come true, that's why we do compulsions. I don't think the whole "gut feeling" thing works for people like us unfortunately, but that's just my personal opinion. I'd say morals are the best compass when it come to ocd. I have rocd too so I know how extremely stressful it is. Keep in mind that love is a choice not a feeling; this doesn't mean that you have to force yourself to be with someone you don't like being around, but if you do enjoy their presence it's a good thing to remember. When I first started dating my boyfriend I picked apart everything about him from his personality traits to his appearance. I was terrified, so I thought I hated him in a way even though I knew something about him was really special. Every reason why I SHOULDN'T date him crossed my mind, but some dark corner in my brain knew that all of these doubts and mean things my thoughts were saying about him were lies. I stuck it out and now I want to spend the rest of my life with him. The doubts are still there sometimes, but all I need to do is ground myself and look at him for what he truly is. I know easier said than done. Don't let OCD stop you from being in a relationship if you want to be. Good luck :) ❤

Shanny

Date posted: 5y

I hope I can have one someday. I feel sick thinking about sometimes I'm learning how to call it out. I just have so much fear. It makes me feel lile im losing my mind sometimes. I'm glad to know im not but still

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

@Shanny For me to stick around it took my first relationship failing. I had really bad rocd and I decided to break it off with the dude because I was so scared. Later on a realized there was potential in the relationship, but I had also moved on and their were no sad feelings. It made me to decide to try to give my next relationship as long of a chance as possible and I'm really glad I did.

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

@hateocd123 To stick around in my second relationship*

Shanny

Date posted: 5y

@hateocd123 I never had one but I realized that I need to work on self love and not bring fear into my potential relationship

hateocd123

Date posted: 5y

@Shanny Just don't beat yourself up too much if you find that fear coming back in relationships. That's the nature of OCD.

Natedog

Date posted: 5y

Yeah I have ? and some of them I guess have come true and that was with rocd

Natedog

Date posted: 5y

@Shanny Mines kinda complicated lol cos it’s just i was always thought about me not being good enough compared to others and that she would wanna get with them ect and then when we broke up after me struggling and fucking it up with my mental illness for a long time shortly after she was with others complicated lol probs not same just a factor of my ocd/anxiety. I couldn’t understand what you said sos do you mind saying it again and I can try and help?

Shanny

Date posted: 5y

@Natedog Oh snap! I was texting without reading ? I have a friend who I like but worry that hes gonna back to his ex from 8 months ago its silly but I get very worried ?

Natedog

Date posted: 5y

@Shanny You like him in the way that you wanna be with him yeh?

Shanny

Date posted: 5y

@Natedog Yeah but im not trying to make it more than what it is. We are friends...at least right now ??

Natedog

Date posted: 5y

@Shanny Oh okay?? well do you know if they are talking still or do you know he has nothing to do with her anymore ect but you still worry?

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