Mitu_001
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- 5w
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Have u told ur partners about ur intrusive thoughts? I know you dont have to..but I am curious..And if you dont do you feel guilty ? And like you hide from them? If u do, how do you deal with that?
OCD&MEOCD&ME
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- 5w
I tell my partner some of my thoughts, but it would be hard to tell him every single one. I usually just tell him when I’m having a tough day and he supports me without knowing the details. I don’t feel like I’m hiding anything
Ladybug5678Ladybug5678
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5w
I have confession as a compulsion I feel like I have to tell every thought or I'm not being honest. Sometimes raw unfiltered intrusive thoughts can be hurtful to your partner. So I usually say ugh my intrusive thoughts are bothering me right now and get a hug or whatever but sit with the discomfort of the topic and I can keep the content to myself or my therapist
Mitu_001Mitu_001
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- 5w
Yeah i read is a compulsion.And yeah..I woudnt even be comfortable telling them my thoughts..EXACTLY what I think..bcs they are disturbing.I just got togheter and I hope they will understand...When I will tell them
Ladybug5678Ladybug5678
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 5w
@Mitu_001 They are disturbing and while it's really important to be able to trust your partner to accept you as a person and your thoughts but you also want to keep their well being in mind. My husband is the best, so supportive and amazing but my confessing has definitely not always been helpful
Mitu_001Mitu_001
- Date posted
- 5w
I am glad you all have supportive partners!
Steven55!Steven55!
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 5w
I've only told my wife and my priest, and in both cases I gave them a general overview. I fogure it's nobody else's business.
Mitu_001Mitu_001
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- 5w
Yeah..is not
Glittercupcake14Glittercupca...
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- 5w
i don’t tell anyone i feel guilty all the time that i think those thoughts and i am afraid i don’t love my boyfriend
Mitu_001Mitu_001
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- 5w
I am sorry...I just got in a relationship and have these thoughts( idk if it is bcs of ocd).And someone said you dont have to tell people..that it doesnt mean you hide..Ik is difficult bcs I still keep feeling that
buggyladyxobuggyladyxo
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- 5w
I do sometimes and he is amazing at helping me and not giving me any reassurance during them. But sometimes I think it’s better to protect him from some of the thoughts. I will also say like another person had said here that my ocd is really bothering me today and he will just cuddle me and give me lots of warmth. I’m not perfect. Sometimes the ones that I don’t want him to hear slip out, I end up feeling incredibly guilty and realize pretty quickly once they left my mouth that it was an ocd thought. We just end up talking it out even if they are painful at times.
Mitu_001Mitu_001
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- 5w
I am glad u talk..but you shouldnt feel this guilty..
buggyladyxobuggyladyxo
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- 5w
@Mitu_001 I feel guilty because yes, it affects me incredibly, but it also affects him. It hurts him at times and sometimes makes his trust waver. I can imagine how confusing rocd can be for the partner who doesn’t experience it. Being in a relationship will always have its ups and downs and will be a struggle since you are interacting with a different brain but I love us together. And we work through the hard stuff together. 💛
Mitu_001Mitu_001
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- 5w
@buggyladyxo I am glad that he understands.I hope you can go through the bad times togheter.And I dont think is neither of your fault
buggyladyxobuggyladyxo
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- 5w
@Mitu_001 Thank you 😭💛🫂
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