ROCD advice ?

@Mr OCD Pro I want to love him though, I can imagine my life without him I haven’t let him go because I really do like him , and I would like to learn to stop obsessing over those things. That’s all. I really do love HIM as a person like romantically yes I genuinely do and I’ve committed myself to him. No im not going to feel ashamed but I am going to say that I want to love him , like I want to accept him how he is because I love him

@Mr OCD Pro I wanna look for ways to grow the emotional connection and allow myself to feel how I feel not to force things but to naturally let it happen

@slippery_salad Thank you love! This is who he is for me 💞absolutely a dream man and I would feel horrible losing him for real! He’s my best friend and he had actually told me he won’t give up on me with this either

@slippery_salad Btw I really like your profile I really admire your love for Jesus and admire your cute as Jesus! You are absolutely right!

@EmmaGrace27 I think you’re really cute too! Keep doing Gods will and your life will unfold beautifully. Don’t underestimate the value of peace. Even if life might be a little boring or less exciting for you. Peace is more valuable than any of that

@slippery_salad Josh is an amazing man he has everything personality wis rice wanted in a man and he’s not ugly at all, I just need to let go of my preferences I wanted. Like a certisn type of nose, or body shape etc bc it feels like I can’t get over it and I really want to!

@EmmaGrace27 The lie youre believing and the lie that OCD is telling you. Is that once you find a man with the perfect nose and perfect body shape, your OCD will stop bothering you. You dont think your OCD is gonna find something else wrong with your relationship once you find that “perfect” man? Your mind is scrupulous. You will always find uncertainty to be afraid of.

@slippery_salad Yea… I compare and I feel bad it feels like I need that and it feels lustful. Like if I want it let me go get it type of deal. Or if I don’t feel satisfied let me go get it, but I’m at the point of just continuing to ignore it. Love is a choice and I want to love him dearly I do. I have a very special connection with him and one I feel like I’ll never have with someone else. Lots of prayers that’s gone into this and I also don’t feel the lord tearing us apart, I have no real biblical reasons to break up. Believe me, no one’s forcing me to love him but I’m choosing to, and I wanna choose to say those things don’t matter what matters is who he is as a person and everything else will follow I get waves of feeling ok then I see someone I find attractive and I go back to it so that’s my loop personally.

@EmmaGrace27 It isnt a bad thing to find other men attractive. Its just important that you dont act on that attraction. Im talking to a girl and I find Kylie Jenner super hot. Does that mean Ive become adulterous? Its only when you start to lust that you act on the thought. Even then though, youre sinful and bound to fall. All that matters is that you get back up. Did your bf go to college in Ohio?

@slippery_salad No actually he went to college at grand valley state university in Michigan he’s from Illinois

@slippery_salad I don think I’ve ever struggled in becoming lustful in any sort of way towards other men just wishing he looked like them lol, but when I’m up close to him cuddling comfortable I don’t think about those things and quite frankly I wish I never did

@slippery_salad Every time I get to a place where I feel good I see them then I fall right back into the loop. And I think this is ocd? I hope it is and not that I just dislike my bf, I wanna learn to love him and appreciate the things that actually matter not good looks

@EmmaGrace27 The present moment is HUGE. God is pure Actuality. His nature is existence itself. So the more we hone in to the present moment and life TODAY, the more we will actually grow closer to Him and to those we love:) Just be in the present with your man. When those thoughts come, just continue to redirect your attention to the present moment. Eventually those thoughts fade:)

@slippery_salad I appreciate that. I think I also have to accept them being there the feelings too if just feeling like I’m unattracted

@EmmaGrace27 Sit with them:) youre cool Emma. I hope it all works out for you!

@slippery_salad Thanks brother!!

@slippery_salad I kind of realized the life I wanted with. Man is not the life God wants for me he clearly sees l potential if it’s his plan. I think that form about of prayer I’m just going to accept this is what he wants for me and no that it’s bad what I want but that I’m probably not going to get it so I can learn to love Josh the way he is now and value HIM

@slippery_salad I won’t stop praying for God to change my heart bc he will

@EmmaGrace27 I think OCD is a gift because it teaches us real vulnerable abandonment to the will of God. You look at St. Therese of Lisieux (the little flower) Everything she did was in full abandonment to the Lord and full trust. I think God allows us to have OCD because it teaches us to be okay with not knowing. Almost like that of a child. In order to enter into the kingdom of heaven you must have child-like faith. That means abandoning yourself into the unknown

@slippery_salad I think so too. I think I had to come to the conclusion this is what God wants for me despite what I think I want and I don’t have to convince myself that I want it because I do I just want that confirmation from him and I definitely have it and now I have to have full faith that if I allow these thoughts to be there and feelings without putting meaning to them unless there is an actual issue , it’ll get better

@EmmaGrace27 Good job:)