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I’m Batman

Date posted: 44w

Yep. It blows. What worked for me was to delay it. Ok, you have all this evidence so it must be true right ? Ok sure, but unless you are in a dangerous situation and your partner is abusing you, there is no need for urgency here. Let’s set a date, say a few days or a week. We will then revisit this evidence if necessary and re-evaluate the situation. Until then we will love our partner and be present with them. I would do this and found most times , that sense of urgency left. OCD has the patience of a child. It wants its compulsion and it wants it now. If you delay it, sure it will start to toss a tantrum and make you feel bad, but like a child it will give up and move on once it realizes it’s not getting what it wants. And a lot of time that evidence, I would forget about or realize it was ocd all along and not revisit it.

Mk3

Date posted: 44w

@I’m Batman That’s a great idea. Thank you. I know my therapist always tells me if it’s a real problem you can deal with it when you’re better from this OCD shiz. Right now my brain is so scrambled. The evidence is just random feelings and thoughts. Probably all dumb and not important. But my ocd makes them important and then I’m lead to thinking I like someone else. It’s like I just like someone else . Hate it

I’m Batman

Date posted: 44w

@Mk3 Yeah I’ve been there. I think it’s called thought action fusion or some crap . I thought it so it must be real. And because it’s real I must do something about it right now because ocd said so. Nahh ocd, I’m good, if it’s real, we can deal with it later. I wish you and your partner well!!

I’m Batman

Date posted: 44w

@Mk3 Yeah you can pick what ever time works for you. I always picked a week or some random date cause then I felt like I was not lying to myself. Realistically I know the ocd will never be over right? We will always have it. So having an actual random date just worked better for me. But what ever works for you best would Be the best choice for you. There are no wrong answers here I think, as long as we tell ocd to piss off and live our lives the way we want too 😆 either way you are not alone and all the awesome folks here support you!!

I’m Batman

Date posted: 44w

That’s the idea. Most times ocd wants fed and fed now. If you delay the feeding , most times ocd moves onto the next opportunity. If it’s actually something that’s real it will still be there when you are not on your ocd brain. Thats not to say ocd can’t revisit that well… but we cross that bridge too later. Another good trick is to do the opposite of what ocd wants. OCD says to avoid your partner ? Spend more time with them . OCD says the way your partner chews their food is annoying? Tell your self you like. Not only do you like it , you hope they keep doing it. OCD says you don’t like the way they dress ? Nahh f that , I love the way they dress. I think I might start dressing that way too. What ever ocd demands , do the opposite and lean into it. Make it a game. The more you can f with ocd , the more it shrinks and backs off.

I’m Batman

Date posted: 44w

@Mk3 Oh yeah for sure. I’ve learned that voice is always there. We can’t change it. It’s there with the same old stupid questions and doubts and concerns and shit we know no real answer exists for. I’ve learned over time, I however can change my response to it. I don’t have to answer it. I don’t have to figure out what it wants. People without ocd have intrusive thoughts just like us. The difference is when that voice asks that question, they say that’s weird , what’s for lunch. While you and I bend over backwards to figure out the answer it wants. When that voice comes calling today, how about you and I respond with , what’s for lunch. 😆

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