How do you guys handle uncertainty? I keep having so many what if thoughts and I feel so bad. The worst ones are what if I act on my intrusive thoughts or actually want them and I can’t tell if they’re me or not. It just feels so real and at this point I don’t even know if they’re intrusive thoughts anymore. I just want to not be a bad person and not feel like this anymore.
Number one. You are NOT your thoughts. The fact you are posting this and you’re worried means they are intrusive, not actually you. Here’s a few things you may be able to do that I’ve done. 1. Just like I said before. They’re not real. They’re not you. Tell that to yourself. 2. Know that it’ll take time. Maybe a few days, maybe a few years. As long as you wait and accept that they’ll stay with you, they’ll eventually go away. 3. Do you have hobbies? Play some video games. They can help and get your mind off things. Or you can read a book. 4. Make sure you’re having good sleep and exercise. When you don’t get good sleep, your mind decides to spiral, and that’s usually when I have my intrusive thoughts. 5. Buy some fidgets if you have harm ocd! They can calm your mind, and for me it helps a lot. 6. I think what really helps me is helping and supporting others who are going through the same thing. A lot of the times, I answer my own questions by helping others! Sorry if these don’t work for you. These just help me.
Hi there, When I’m struggling to sit in uncertainty, I have a few ways of going about it. First, I use some of my response prevention messages. “This thought only has meaning if I allow it to” and “thoughts are thoughts, not signs” are two of my go-to phrases when the thoughts are making me question my intentions. Secondly, I try to disengage. I’ll use phrases like “that’s a thought, moving on.” I will then try to do something else, like cook or listen to some music. I know it can feel really overwhelming at times, but keep going. I’m rooting for you!
Learn it by doing it, if there’s a situation that make you afraid said i dont want to know it, just let it be and try calm i also still learn it
Thank you! It’s only really gotten bad a little over a month ago so it’s still kinda new to me and I don’t know how to deal with it. I just feel like I’ve been ruminating so much, not just on the intrusive thoughts but who I am/if I’m a bad person and that’s what really bothers me. I’ll definitely try some of these though!
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
This situation just happened and I can definitely remember how it went but my brain is telling me otherwise and I know you guys said to sit with the uncertainty but what if the intrusive thought is so bad like disgusting, I can’t sit with that. Maybe it’s false memory but this just happened. I don’t even know how to live with this
I need tips on how to really accept the uncertainty the ocd causes, even if it feels so bad like I might get in trouble for something , do I wanna be okay with that?
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