Sometimes this app is triggering…😅 Someone said that if erp didn’t work, i should try gender affirming…its so scary! Even if im not diagnosed officially but still,what do you think?(I don’t want gender affirming 😔)
No worries :) It's important to note that not all advice given is beneficial or factual, as we are not professionals, but I'm sure the advice is given with nothing but good intent as people genuinely are trying to help in a way they see possible. Gender affirming treatment would indeed be harmful for SOOCD because that treatment would validate our intrusive thoughts ("Am i actually gay?) as actually being real, when intrusive thoughts are just meaningless chatter that we shouldn't pay any attention to. That treatment would also involve constant reassurance and constant arguing with the intrusive thoughts (compulsions) about what orientation we are that we are doubtful of. But we always wanna stay away from compulsions if we have OCD. SOOCD is supposed to be treated the same way as any OCD theme: they are all treated with ERP, which is awarded as the gold-standard treatment for Ocd. ACT, self-compassion, and a healthy lifestyle also help a lot. ERP therapists often teach those practices in combination with ERP. Aside from that, I would stay away from using anything else that ERP therapists don't advocate for.
@Love1another<3 I wanted to say,is it still so ocd if im scared of being into women,not being gay itself? Like,if i was a boy,and gay,it won’t be scary cuz if mean i love men,but if gay woman? No..im a woman but my head is so tired
@Mimo116 Yeah :) Anything in the world can turn into an obsession. There’s no limits on what counts as Ocd or not. I have had obsessions and compulsions over something as small as what pair of earrings I wanted to order on Amazon haha 😄 For SOOCD, I’ve even heard of gay people afraid of turning straight! I also hear of people afraid of turning bi or lesbian. OCD will attack all angles. All of those have in common- the obsession of losing your sense of identity and therefore, accidentally making life choices against your values/morals. This is a common core fear across many OCD themes
@Love1another<3 I said that because SOOCD is fearing of being gay.but i fear being into women in secret and not into men,so in scared im a lesbian! But im not upset of “gay”,like,if im a boy i wont mind being gay and that mean im for men,so its confusing,am I really experiencing HOCD? :( I wasnt upset at all,the point i joined an online game and put mlm flag and pretend im a gay boy.it wasn’t for to be boy as a gender ,but facing the fear but with still show that im for men.and when it was fun and not bad,my brain saya that im secretly a boy or trans. Im tireeeedddddd
@Mimo116 I get you completely 🫶 Yes, if you have an obsessive fear and you do compulsions around it (mental or physical), then it’s most likely OCD. I hear some rumination in your post and that’s one form of a compulsion. The obsessive fear of being into women/being a lesbian is definitely part of SOOCD as well :) SOOCD pertains to any orientation- the fear of being bi, straight, lesbian, gay, transgender, nonbinary, etc. It sounds like you’re also experiencing a theme called “Meta OCD” which involves having questions like “is this really OCD or is this something else?” Also, I’m sorry you’re so exhausted. I find that the compulsions are what makes us so tired and when we get those under control, life starts to feel more peaceful again 👍 I think ERP therapy would benefit you
I'm starting testosterone soon and suddenly I'm feeling more anxious about regret and being wrong. I was on reddit (that was my first mistake) and a post popped up on my feed and it was a cis woman saying she did some soul searching and realized she wasn't a trans man after all. she said that she was a tomboy growing up and dealt with trauma that she needed to detach from. it shook me a bit and now I'm scared that I'm making the wrong choice. does anyone have any tips to get rid of this constant doubt?
2 nights ago I saw something on my phone and it has now spiraled into me scared of being trans or being gay because i don’t want to be… now i have a huge fear of what if i am gay and am attracted to woman or what if im not comfortable in my body and want to turn into a man. It’s freaking me out - my ocd always makes me question my character! Has anyone experienced this 😩
I’m thinking about doing erp but my ocd is so severe the thought of accepting my fears happening to me makes me sick to my stomach. I also believe in the power of my words and saying I accept this Bad thing will attract it into my life. I’m not sure what I should do🥲
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