Anyone have any advice for dating with OCD? Specifically the more taboo themes like POCD, incest ocd zoophilia ocd, harm ocd etc. I’ve never really dated in my life and the thought of approaching these conversations with people not in the ocd community is kind of scary
Hi! I deal with the same subtypes of ocd that your dealing with, I'm currently in a relationship (almost 4 years) and the symptoms of my ocd have always been there(more of a just right) but were never too bad until they reached pocd and I started to panic, my boyfriend knows all about the thoughts I have, and the mental illness that is causing it(confessing is a compultion of mine that I'm working on), dating with ocd is absolutely possible its just about finding the person who understands you for you, don't be discouraged, I'm sure there someone out there who will understand that you have ocd and that your thoughts are in fact just thoughts and that they are not yours and are caused by ocd, I wish you luck on your healing journey! I hope everything works out well!
Hello! I would say to take it slowly and give yourself grace. I have some similar obsessions and whenever I push myself to date it causes my obsessions to flair up. I used to feel like I either needed to be “normal” with a partner or that I had to talk about these difficult topics with them until they understood me completely. I would often get discouraged because of how extreme my expectations were. You should feel safe with your partner and they with you. That kinda relationship takes time. Whatever you end up deciding, you got this!
Well I'm in a relationship right now and I don't really tell my partner about it. He knows that I have ocd and I also believe that once I told him that I have intrusive thougths but without any details, just that I have them. He just saaaaid that he understands bc he haas them too sometimes. Sometimes I wish he knew a bit more or was at least interested in knowing more but I believe it's better that way. I believe that it's my health issue and as far as he can know that I have an issue it doesn't mean that he has to know it all. I still have to get better by myself and sharing more might turn into a compulsion and might just be too heavy for him to handle.
And not too heavy bc there is something wrong with haaaving ocd like that. I just don't like when people know what I'm struggling with and get worried when I'm absolutly handling it
Does anyone else experience ocd around the topic of non monogamy and hookup culture and stuff? Im not hating people who are into these things, intact I thinks it great that people have ways of experiencing relationships how they want to and I will always support and advocate for that, but non monogamy and hookup culture is not for me. However because its not for me and I really don't want to partake in any of these things by brain keeps telling me things like: 1. Monogamy is toxic and fake and polyamory is the only real way to have relationships 2. I secretly want non monogamy and casual relationship 3. I'm experiencing these feelings because im a bigot 4. Everyone's involved in non monogamy in some for these days even if its things like open relationships, threesomes etc so monogamy will become rare and you will never have a relationship Those are just some of the thoughts but I have many more. Like I said I'm supportive of people who engage in those things, but I don't want it and I feel as though I can't justify my reasons why I don't want it and that I'm a fake or a bigot. I'm constantly googling "benefits of monogamy" "why monogamy is better" etc to justify to myself why I want what i want. My googling is so obsessive though and I'm up all night doing it and watching videos and things. I can't sleep because of my worries. Everytime I see anything, anywhere relating to non monogamy wheather that be open relationships, polyamory, threesomes etc I feel so sick In my stomach, my anxiety sky rockets and I just want to cry, it's how I am with seeing gay relationship and things with my sexual orientation ocd. (I feel the same when I things about hookups and stuff too). It's like a voice in my head is going "see it's working for these people, you actually want it, your lying if you don't". I have thousands of screenshots of articles and posts that's reassure me about my wants but my ocd always makes be doubt myself. I need some advice on how to deal with it, because im at breaking point and feel like a horrible person. I also want to know if anyone else is dealing with what I'm going through.
Has anyone experienced their reputation affected or misunderstood because of a societally taboo OCD theme? Others catching wind of your obsessions and misinterpreting it, assuming the worst? I’m intentionally keeping it vague because I don’t want my specific situation to get reassured, but it’s been a real tough pill to swallow knowing that people close to me (and anyone else they might talk to) think of me differently. I’m unwilling to share about my OCD because I feel pretty confident it will be taken as an excuse or denial, and feels compulsive and reassurance seeking. Let me know if anyone here has experienced anything like it, how they handled it, exposures you did.
So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.
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