false attraction 🥲

I experience the same sort of thing, what I’ve noticed is when I stop checking to see how I’m feeling about them by like looking at them or thinking about them, over time the feelings of attraction start to go away!

As someone with this “form” of ocd, I’m not gonna feed into yours and say that you are gay. As a guy I get really excited around my guy friends, nothing weird about it. What my brain tells me is just what it says, yknow I think that in every relationship whether it’s friendship or sexual relationship you should feel some sort of extreme bond. Now if you feel like you genuinely wanna be sexually active with this person, don’t be afraid to explore your sexuality. But there is nothing wrong with feeling a strong connection with another human being of the same sex. I know with my ocd even if I said I don’t wanna have sex with this person it’d come back and say “but what if you do” type of stuff. Best thing you can do is ignore it and focus on what’s really happening in the real world not in your head. Sometimes I get caught in a thought loop and have to physically snap myself out of it by going “snap urself out of it” and shaking my head or body

Hi there! I’ve experienced something in your case with the obsessive side too! What it came down to me was 1: trying to really understand my feelings towards the person and 2: take that understanding to move with purpose moving forward. In one case I realized that I was in fact crushing on this one girl and wanted to pursue her and I moved with that intention and then came to realize I was in fact not straight. And in a case before that I realized I just wanted to be the friends with another girl. It took time but being honest with myself and trying to understand what I wanted from that person let me see things a bit more clearly. I don’t want to put any label on you or anything like that, but I think it would help if you try and really ask yourself what you want from them or even picture yourself in a romantic vs platonic scenario with them. Ask yourself, do either of those make sense to you? Don’t force yourself into one box or another, forcing yourself to feel something or to hide from a feeling could end up hurting your own feelings. 🫂

I also want to add, I’ve also sensed what you’ve termed as false attraction. I’ve been really excited around new people and my curiosity overwhelms me and the idea of them takes over my mind. There have been times I’ve gone out of my way to be noticed by them, or to talk to them. I’ve just learned with time that people are interesting to me and I love to learn about them. I’ve had to find ways to distinguish the attraction to them i was truly feeling. Sometimes I can feel so drawn to a person and it ended up being because I felt like we could be great friends. There have also been times when I feel so inclined to get to know someone because I feel like we would be a great match. With all of this, I would say, as you’re finding yourself getting to know someone, if the lines tend to be a bit blurry you can try having a conversation with the other person and see if that gives you any clarity. Be open and honest with how you’re feeling. If it’s a match that’s great, if not then that is perfectly fine too! Life is all about getting to know yourself more and opening yourself up to new people & experiences too!;)

Maybe you’re gay, maybe you’re not. Learn to live the uncertainty. Live with the doubt ❤️❤️