Has anyone's ROCD caused trouble in the relationship in regards to talking about marriage? It's caused a lot of problems for me. And it turn, it causes her to doubt and then that comes back to me as full blown OCD. It's really difficult
My ROCD went full blown haywire after I got engaged. My entire engagement thus far has been consumed by ROCD, but I KNOW I have the choice to live my life without ROCD dictating it. Everything can be a trigger and everything can be uncomfortable, some days I tolerate it and some days I struggle. Worst days are when the breakup urges are strong. It’s really hard, but confessing is a compulsion! Are you doing ERP?
@quesadillagirl3 I was doing ERP until I just got laid off from my job 😟. So that's not helping. My gf is such a great person and I let maybe one thought like "am I attracted enough?" bother me so much that marriage is hard to think about. (Everything else about our relationship is pretty great)
I have been in this ROCD spiral for a couple of months now and I am also very new to ROCD. I havent had a formal diagnosis, just self diagnosed (and hoping this is what it is i am suffering from). Ive been married for 11 years now to a wonderful man and it has been a great 11 years so to have these thoughts questioning my love for my partner and our relationship is breaking my heart. It has just come completely out of the blue.
Yes, been there
my ocd repeatedly yaks at me saying my bf doesnt actually love me and is cheating on me/ignoring me and that i should break up with him. Im obviously not going to because i love him, but you 100% arent alone and you should definitely talk to him about your OCD!
I have to constantly ask my husband if he still loves me. It’s exhausting for both of us but, I still can’t understand why he would.
Yep, I've been there. My guy in the beginning was kind of suffocating, totally freaked me out and then flipped to polar opposite and didn't want to commit. We had tons of fights about it, I told him to never change his mind, went after my career, found other ways to be happy and then he flipped it again and brought up marriage after 9 1/2 years. I told him no at first, then didnt sleep for a week thinking about it. I still doubt whether he actually loves me or if he settled.
me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
I’ve been really struggling with Relationship OCD since I got married, and 3 years later, I’m afraid I’ve lost the love of my life. Between the Relationship OCD, the Religious OCD, and the Sexuality OCD, she couldn’t handle it anymore. Now that she left, the fog of doubt has faded, and I’m realizing how much I truly loved her all along. I just don’t understand how our minds can play such sabotaging tricks on us. And why? I don’t know what to do. I hope and pray we eventually get back together, but I know I need help. I want to do whatever I can to return to a place where she can feel loved by me, the way she did before ROCD took over. Is anyone here going through something similar? Has anyone overcome ROCD? Were you able to repair your relationship? I’d really appreciate any insight or advice. Thank you.
Lately my ROCD has been flaring up, making it difficult to even be around my partner. I’m having so many troubling thoughts with the one that bugs me most being, “maybe this isn’t my OCD, maybe I’m just in a bad relationship and I’m trying to cover it up and blame it on OCD”. This thought really scares me because there are valid doubts in my relationship but my boyfriend and I have openly talked about them and are trying to work through. My OCD won’t take that as an option tho. It makes me feel like I need to be 100% certain that these things can NEVER happen again or else we need to break up immediately. So anything he says in that moment about trying to do better, my OCD will not trust anything he says and just wait until the next “bad thing” happens. When I continuously bring these things up to my boyfriend even tho nothing has happened between these conversations, it exhausts him making it feel like he can never do enough. I feel so bad because I know it’s just my OCD getting in the way. But then that thought creeps in saying I can’t trust him because I need to protect myself. It’s just an ongoing cycle that is so tiring. I don’t even know what I want anymore. We are very opposite when it comes to emotions. I am very in tune and very emotionally intelligent, and he is not. He is the opposite. I do recognize that my anxious attachment style may be hard for him too but I can’t stop thinking about all of his flaws and all of the things he needs to do to make our relationship better. It makes me feel like I’m the only one putting in effort when in reality that is not true. But my OCD does make me feel like he doesn’t really love me or want to be with me and that he feels forced to be with me or do things for me. It makes me feel like him being with me is like a chore. Can anyone relate? My OCD just makes me feel like I can’t trust anything he says to make our relationship better.
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