chloeslogan3
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- 2d
Real event OCD
Anyone who struggles with real event, rumination, and guilt. Please please please tell me your tips and tricks and maybe some words of encouragement.❤️
F-U- OCDF-U- OCD
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- Yesterday
I used to suffer from this a lot. It's been a long time but what I would tell myself when it would spike is - I can't trust my memory. Memories aren't perfect. Maybe it happened, maybe it didn't. Just because I can "remember" something doesn't necessarily mean it's real. - Everyone makes mistakes. Some people do horrible things, on purpose or on accident and they still live on. - I used to come back to this thing someone wrote about how life is like you're driving a car and guilt is the little check engine light telling you to pull over. If you can't reasonably do anything to make it right, you get back in your car and drive on. - Remembering the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt is you feeling bad about what you did, and shame is "I'm a bad person". You can make it right with the other person and fix guilt, but shame is different. No one deserves shame. Its unproductive and cruel. Shame is what OCD deals in. Hopefully this isn't reassurance but it's what helped me get through that theme and onto other fun themes 🥲
F-U- OCDF-U- OCD
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- Yesterday
I was always remembering all these little details or trying to remember exactly how I felt at that moment but you can never know for sure. Your brain is not infallible.
F-U- OCDF-U- OCD
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- Yesterday
@F-U- OCD Also "fixing" guilt doesn't mean fixing the feeling of guilt that you are experiencing, just making it right in the other person's book.
chloeslogan3chloeslogan3
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- Yesterday
@F-U- OCD Thank you very much. Dealing with the shame is so incredibly difficult, but i will keep pushing!
chaitea chaitea
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- 2d
Oh, I’m in the same boat! I constantly feel like I’ve failed so many people and said the worst stuff. My tips are to get in touch with your senses to bring you back to the present, and try to center your exhaustion with your OCD when you’re especially wound up. If you lean into exhaustion, I think you have a better chance of accessing the part of you that is in so much pain and can’t do this anymore. When that doesn’t work, sit through and take a melatonin to help knock you out at night. You’ve got this!
chloeslogan3chloeslogan3
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- Yesterday
@chaitea Thank you so much for this!!!!
>paralysed<>paralysed<
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- Yesterday
Thank you for asking this question. I am in the same boat and have so many real-events... But there are about three that I feel like I can't handle. I am currently working trough my fears/ feelings of guilt by trying to do the following: - I try to allow the feelings and the pain that arise, which is extremely hard and has repeatedly led to breakdowns. Meds help somewhat by reducing the intensity of the feelings. Sometimes I am able to say to myself: "Yes, it hurts. Yes, that would be very bad and sad if that's what happened." - An extremely difficult exposure also seems to be allowing good things to happen to me in life despite everything. Compared to about a year ago, my health is a little better. Before that I was partially bed-bound due to my anxiety, guilt and hopelessness.
chloeslogan3chloeslogan3
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- 10h
@>paralysed< Thank you for taking the time to write this and im so sorry for the ways that ocd has effected you. I have let the feelings pass before but sometimes I just can’t help but try to work it out in my head (even though I know it just repeats the cycle). I’m gonna continue to try and separate my past actions and my ocd mind from who I actually am and live my life fully and I hope you can forgive yourself and do the same🩷
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